If someone were to own up to their bad behavior that hurt you, would it help you put the past behind and move on?

Or would it seem like just another lame attempt to get back into your good graces so they could hurt you again?

Hmmm.... Thoughts?

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PerfectionOfTheHeart · 46-50, F

I learned long ago to move forward without needing an apology from anyone who either knowingly or unknowingly crippled me along my journey. I also learned that oftentimes an apology only comes as a way to make themselves feel better about the hurt they caused. But I’m usually cordial after the dust settles anyway because that’s how I choose to move in life. Things are never the same again though. Ever. The apology matters very little to me in the whole scheme of things.

LadyBronte · 61-69, F

@PerfectionOfTheHeart We all can survive without an apology, but the sincere attempt can go a long way in soothing the soul. Most people will never get that though, because they are unimportant to the one who hurt them.

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LadyBronte · 61-69, F

@Adogslife I have to agree. Most apologies are a means to an end, to get back whatever is in question - privilege, intimacy, career, etc, etc. Rarely internalized, rarely honest, despite the "heartfelt" countenance. But as you say, years later and a genuine admission of bad behavior, could be genuine. Most will never recieve even that.