If someone were to own up to their bad behavior that hurt you, would it help you put the past behind and move on?

Or would it seem like just another lame attempt to get back into your good graces so they could hurt you again?

Hmmm.... Thoughts?

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JustNik · 51-55, F

If there was real remorse, I would appreciate it because I can say someone owning it and not caring how much it hurt and someone not acknowledging it at all both definitely feel worse, but it wouldn’t influence how quickly I got past it and it wouldn’t automatically wipe the slate clean as only time proves the behavior doesn’t repeat. The most it would do is allow me to give them that time as opposed to simply shutting my heart to them irrevocably.

LadyBronte · 61-69, F

@JustNik I can see that. If it was genuine remorse, not simply placating words. But yes - nothing can help how quickly you heal and it shouldn't make you forget everything.