I keep asking myself why wasn’t I good enough for my biological parents?

The way you were treated by your parents is not a reflection of you at all. My man was treated horribly by both of his parents, trauma from which he still suffers from today. But he is an incredible person who is so self-sacrificing like you wouldn’t believe, in spite all he’s been through. You strike me as a kind and caring individual yourself, who’s a wonderful mother with a great sense of humor. It’s not that you weren’t good enough for your parents, you were too good for them.

Unfortunately, people who conceive children aren’t always equipped to do much beyond that. I survived some pretty colossal neglectful and abusive parenting, and I wasn’t able to make peace with it until I eventually realized that it wasn’t because of anything I did or didn’t do. The deficiencies are on the adult side and not yours. You were a kid, and parents have a basic obligation to provide safety and essentials needed to live and learn. It sounds like you were denied that by people who had no business reproducing, and that is 100% not your fault.

Oh I'm so sorry! I hate to hear that! My wife was adopted too. She went through hell as well and in foster homes. So I personally can't relate but I know what you must have went through. I'm so sorry! ☹

Even a really bad child should be treated with kindness and love, even if it's undeserved, so no it can't be your fault.

Thank you everyone I’m much better now just had a moment ☺

They weren't good enough, that's the truth. You could have been an absolute angel and it wouldn't have made any difference. Evil happens to good people every day. Bad people inflict damage on good people, that's how it works.

You are not responsible for the actions of your parents. You are here, but you didn't ask to be here. If they didn't provide their child with love, they failed as parents. You are not to blame.

They didn’t deserve YOU! You were chosen, so that means much more.

(((((HUGS))))) I am so very sorry, it was this way with my mother because I wasn't born a girl, I cannot wait for my mother to croak so she can be judged by the cosmos for all she did not only to me, but to so many on my Dad's side for her lies that cost my Dad his life, a long story, and how her gossipy mouth caused us to move 17 times in 12 years.