Do you give people the opportunity to apologize for grievances you hold against them, that might or might not actually be as you initially viewed them

through angry eyes?

Or do you shut down, close up, and walk away, and never to speak to them again?

What is your way?

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Well it depends on how much i care for that person.
If i do care...i hurt. Ill prolly react, or shut down if its really painful - but the door is always left open a crack, (im ultimately a softy).

If it's someone that has minimal influence on my heart, i hurt, i might react - but then realize i don't need to care.

Anger is EXHAUSTING. (took me too long to learn this). Those that i once hated now sit in a 'sad lamenting' place within me.

I suppose i work on levels.
I still talk to them on a sociable level - but my awareness of them views them from a deeper one underneath, which affects how much 'energy' i give them.
(If i was honest - it basically becomes contempt🫤)