Do you give people the opportunity to apologize for grievances you hold against them, that might or might not actually be as you initially viewed them

First I think,and if the grievance was blown out of proportion then I just automatically forgive.
I don't hold my breath waiting for a apology.
I think if we have grievances against someone we need to discuss it with them .
If they constantly dismiss, downplay, or refuse to accept any reasponbility,then I know this is a person I want to have zero to very limited contact with.