I have been married for five years now, and sometimes I ask myself why? My husband and I are going through so much trying to stay married, but we’re

both struggling to try to understand each other. I know I love him and I want our marriage to work, but we need to overcome the fighting, arguments, and not trusting each other. A week ago he said that he needed to get away by himself, so he can do some thinking. He packed his bag and left without telling me where he was going, I was upset because I thought he was going to meet someone else, he finally texts me and said he was in Las Vegas NV, but he still refuses to give me the address where he was at. We spoke throughout the time he was there and I still had that feeling that someone was there with him. I finally accepted that he needed his time away from me, but still had that negative feeling about the whole situation. Why would a husband want time away from his wife? Was I wrong to feel that something was going on?

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LilMissAnonyMOUSE · F

None of us can judge you or your husband nor decide who's right or wrong in your way of handling your conflict since we don't know you in real life. I can only suggest that If you think your relationship is worth saving, you both have to agree to see a marriage counselor to help you figure things out . If that option isn't possible for whatever reason, you have to come to terms that perhaps you will never know if he was with someone in Las Vegas or not. If you both already had a problem with trusting each other, it's hard to understand how he handles that by doing this because he now has created more cause for your doubting him.

Stop torturing your mind with it and meditate on the kind of life you want for yourself....can you handle more of this in the future? I think you can best do that by telling him to enjoy himself and that you too will be going on a trip so you "can do some thinking "too. Don't tell him where you're going, it's important he feels the same way you did when he did it to you. Sometimes, you have to treat people the same way they treat you for them to wake up. I wish you good luck and hope you know you are strong and powerful as an individual, whether or not he forms part of your life.