Here's a thing. My husband bought a $25 ticket and won grand prize in a club. $13K.

@Ontheroad exactly. I'd want to do that too. I think that's more sensible.

@SW-User yes, if it was for a cause it is nice to give back, but his is only a social thing at work.

@NerdyPotato that's right. They're gonna forget what he did anyway and they probably don't him in the first place.

@GunFinger I'm a little worried about his initial thoughts. He's going to blow straight through the whole prize in a few days before even considering if there is anything it might be useful or important for. He's spending hundreds with the ease as if he got billions rather than thousands.

@NerdyPotato hey me too. I'm his wife it's upsetting the way he thinks.

@GunFinger I'm not sure what you can do....does he have a friend you can ask to speak some sense to him?

@fun4us2b I'm speaking with my brother-in-law and he also doesn't know why he's like that. He said his brother has to fix his house first and the club doesn't need a bottle of alcohol. I hope my husband mentions his plan so my brother-in-law gives him an earful.

@GunFinger Maybe make a list of stuff that needs to get done around the house, not to mention future things your children will need...I feel for you....

@GunFinger So a large part of the winnings could go into finishing the renovation of the house. That would be a good idea.

It's a bit weird to want to give away a bottle of $800. However to me it feels like those bottles are part of an old dream he's finally able to fulfill now and wants to share that dream with the club. I would imagine he acts very happy when he talks about those plans (unless he's reserved about other people's opinions).

Of course I can be wrong, but that's how I imagine it.

@HootyTheNightOwl To me that that goes two ways. Not spending $800, so that instead it goes the the benefit of my family would be a fine choice. Supporting someone that wants to give away a product of $800 (and in this case still have 10K left) is also a choice that someone could make for their family (on a different level than material wealth obviously). Also trying to have that $800 go to the family can be a choice to make for the family.

@Classified It all depends on the living standards of your family, though... if you're not comfortable enough to do renovations and whatever on a routine basis, then it makes sense to do the treat more modestly and hold back more of the money for your own needs.

Spending that much is okay if you are reasonably on top of your home maintenance - which it sounds like he is not... aside from that, he does need to think about his family and their needs more than a nice gesture for the club.

Our poster highlights the need for a kitchen renovation, which isn't usually cheap at the best of times.

@HootyTheNightOwl It's a lot and I don't know how big the need is. The much larger part is not spend however (at the time gun made her post, I don't know what's up now) so that can still go to renovations.

Let's see what else he wants to do with the winnings. To me it isn't strange that he wants to enjoy it. To not enjoy it at all, but to use it only responsibly, can make winning boring in my opinion and can make something that should be really really fun into something sad even. If now money goes into renovation and maybe a dinner with gun, then it sounds like both fun and responsible has happened and it's a win win.

@Degbeme true Deg. He needs a wake up call. The family and the house need it more.

@GJOFJ3 I'm happy for him, but I guess that kind of money could go a long way only if he thinks harder.

@LunarOrbit right. He could be dumb sometimes, I must admit. And yes, he always likes to be acknowledged, appreciated and special mentioned.

@GunFinger He sounds like a great guy with a big heart. He’s probably going to do what he wants to do…(and possibly regret it when the smoke clears).
I would be persistent and let him know you dont think its a great idea. Don’t yell, don’t be upset…just advise him he could do more good with that money where its needed more.

Good luck.

@LunarOrbit thank you so much.

@OogieBoogie that's my plan too.

@Ambroseguy80 stopit with the coffee I'm gonna return the wine!🤣

@BeefySenpie I found more ways. Not on alcohol though.

@Adogslife i wish we could without him having tantrums.

@GunFinger that sucks. 😕

@Adogslife really does. I hate it.

@icedsky i think he's being stupid imo.

@GunFinger Quite possibly he already bought one of those expensive Jim Beams and drank it

@Spoiledbrat same. Or spend it on this house. It needs lots of renovating.

@samueltyler2 I'm not sure. He wants attention from other people first.

@pdockal what's your opinion? Am I selfish?

@GunFinger your fine

@Manzi true. A man with the right mind would think this.

@iamonfire696 true. He asks me but when I have an opinion he gets upset and would still do whatever stupid things he likes.

@SW-User very hard. He always seeks acknowledgement because he didn't have that when he was a child. His parents were always working.

@GunFinger I have a similar problem with my husband, he's always seeking validation from his mother that he basically cannot stand... It's a very difficult situation to be caught up with, she needs to be cut off, he knows it, but he will not, he seems to need to be validated by her for some reason

@SW-User oh they're the same! I surely know we moved here from Sydney where it was so good so he could be closer to his mum.

@empanadas it's a social club at work. I wouldn't want to waste that amount of money on alcohol too. We will discuss what he should do with the rest. Some will go to my daughter's braces/plates this year

@empanadas I sent him a lengthy message last night because he doesn't want to talk to me about it. He will realise and regret when he decides on spending that kind of money on alcohol.

@GunFinger oh he probably just wanted to celebrate a little with his coworkers. At least he didn't spend all of it. Don't be too hard, it could had been a lot worse

@Stereoguy he doesn't think. I wish he knew how.