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Missing person???

Okay yall. This is gonna be a long one but bear with me. Any thoughts, opinions, suggestions, advice and help would be appreciated……

so let’s go back to Tuesday night November 22. The last day I spoke to my boyfriend.

We were having a casual conversation about work opportunities and I told him I may not take it. He replies with “why??” So I replied back explaining….. after that I never heard from him again…...

Initially I thought he passed out early on me and I got frustrated since it was kind of an important convo for me. But the morning came.

No text.

We work at the same job…so I thought he called out of work and was sleeping in…..but noon came and I know he doesn’t sleep in that late….

.I also remembered that he had a VERY important interview for a position he’s been FIGHTING tooth and nail to get…..he was so incredibly happy when they called him for the interview that he almost cried…..he didn’t want to miss that And I KNOW he wouldn’t have missed that opportunity…..he prepared so much for that…..

But he didn’t show up….


So It’s been 2, almost 3 weeks. He hasn’t shown up to work for that duration of time. Still isn’t. Which is not like him.

I’m starting to have MULTIPLE coworkers ask me where he is but I’m just as clueless as them.

My text messages aren’t delivering.
When I call- it goes immediately to voicemail.

Our other coworkers are having the same issue getting a hold of him…..

The phone is shut off.

His supervisor said that his father reached out but didn’t give enough information.

My friend and I took him a care package and dad said he was out. He questioned how we knew him, what the package was for, etc. (but mind you- I haven’t met his parents before) and that He’ll give the package to him when he returns.

The next day my roommate and I stopped by and she spoke in Spanish with his dad and told him that I was really worried about him and what’s happening. This isn’t like him. They said “he went on a little vacation out of the country but should be back soon.” And the mom took my name and number down saying they’ll let him know I’m trying to get a hold of him.

I haven’t heard anything…..I don’t think the parents are telling the truth. If he had anyway of contacting anyone- wouldn’t he reach out to let us know he’s okay and not DEAD??? He would not do this it ISN’T like him.

I called hospitals, did an inmate search to see if he’s been arrested but nothing.

Nothing……

He just disappeared mid conversation.

No explanation. Not showing up at work. Parents are being weird about it and to be honest- I think they’re lying about some things. Phone is off.

What could possibly be happening??? And why are they being so hush hush about everything??? And why is it just him that’s gone? No one else in his household??

I have so many questions. I’m so confused and worried about him and it gives me anxiety. Am I ever gonna even see him again?? Who just disappears like that with no word or warning??? and ESPECIALLY not say anything to your girl???
To where absolutely NO ONE can get ahold of them??? This isn’t like him and I fear something may have happened. None of it makes sense to me at all. I have so many mixed emotions about everything now. I don’t even know whether or not I’m gonna see him again??????
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Any update? This *is* very strange.
Sb356 · 26-30, F
@SomeMichGuy no but thank you for asking…..still no luck. His phone is still off. He lost his job (seen it coming) and he’s still MIA……no one’s had any luck as far as our coworkers and myself. No responses at all. Still gone. I feel so stuck with no where else to look. His family knows what’s going on, they just don’t want to say. It will be a month next week. I don’t know if I will ever see him again and if our future plans are done so I may just have to gather myself and move on…..
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Sb356 · 26-30, F
@SomeMichGuy well we aren’t officially dating that’s the catch. I can prove that we are romantically involved though….so I know him more than they think I do. Would you by any chance happen to know what scenarios would prompt something like this to happen?? I know his mental health wasn’t in the best shape….I thought maybe he was 5150’d or something but I hear they only hold u for 72 hours……this isn’t a regular “I wanna get away and clear my head” vacation. I was thinking time away and maybe in some kind of facility or program where they don’t let you use a mobile phone. Because his phone has been completely OFF. But hes 25….. you can’t just be “sent” anywhere if you’re an adult right?? And like I said: parents know they just don’t want to say. So that’s why I don’t wanna get police involved because I don’t wanna overstep their boundaries if they know where he’s at and what’s happening…..he just **poof**- disappears over night. That’s the weird part….how fast it happened. Mid conversation, literally overnight….I have called hospitals to what extent that they’ll help, I’ve done an inmate search online in our county. I’ve asked the parents themselves twice but they are NO help. I am a part of his “team.” I’m on his side….but he never fully tells me what’s going on with him mentally. He asks me not to pry and that he doesn’t wanna talk about it because he’ll feel worse….so out of respect to him I don’t pry….even tho I’ve continuously insisted that he’s HUMAN. He can’t keep shoving shit down……That in itself is another struggle… that’s why I get frustrated because he puts up walls and now look where im at….trying to find him!! God knows what happened……
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Sb356 · 26-30, F
@SomeMichGuy I don’t think I can fix anyone but he is genuine with me. He does open up but not whole. He isn’t a bad person and I know he’ll tell me what happened eventually but yes until then I’m just gonna live my life. I do think that whatever happened is out of his hands as well…..he’s had a lot on his plate this year and that’s why we aren’t dating yet…..he told me he wants something serious with me and doesn’t want to just fool around because eventually he wants to bring me home to mom. But yeah this whole year just so much happened in so little time in his personal life that I know so much more of (ESPECIALLY surrounding family and I know it KILLS him….) but I haven’t shared here. At this point it could be anything I just hope he’s ok.

And yes….he had an interview he was gonna move up!! He was sooo excited for it but he missed it…..and that’s what kills me…,he was planning on showing up and the night before he disappeared we were texting and he kept reassuring me that we were going to work out, everything would be ok between us because we’re both gonna try, etc…. But he just……disappeared….
@Sb356 That's even worse!

I'm sorry that you find yourself in a Twilight Zone-style situation...it's incredible.
Sb356 · 26-30, F
@SomeMichGuy yes…..I’m sad but the longer he’s gone, the more I become numb to the whole situation
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Sb356 · 26-30, F
@SomeMichGuy yeah I hate it so much. But thanks for listening and thanks for being there for me
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Sb356 · 26-30, F
@SomeMichGuy I’m so upset like….I just got a new job offer today and of course I was so happy and excited. I took it! I’m moving on with life like I know I should but….I can’t help thinking if I’ll ever see him again….and it tears me up inside like…..what happened?😞

I feel like it’s getting to the point where most people will just tell me to move on and forget him….My sister, my friend…they’re at the point where they don’t wanna entertain my concerns anymore… but I’m just sad because I have faith in him. He’s a good man, and he’s been good to me. I know I should forget about him for my sake but I don’t want to. I’m happy with the progress I’m making in my life but I still get times where I’m alone and I find myself teary eyed about him.😞
@Sb356 Well, it is still pretty fresh, and it means a LOT to you.

I guess I just think you should be...wise, prepared, aware of how this might turn out.

But yeah, it sucks, big time. 🥺🥺