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Man gets engaged to woman 50 years ago.

Woman decides she does not want to marry him and gives the ring back.

Man meets new woman a couple months later and gets engaged to her after one month of dating new woman. Marries her and has children.

Wife never knew about the “repurposed” ring until 4 years into their marriage. Man finally bought her, her own ring 31 years later.

Here we are 46 years later and wife is so upset and reliving all of her past and the time she wore a ring meant for another woman.
The other woman wore her ring and showed it off for 1 year before she broke off the engagement. She feels humiliated. And is feeling a huge amount of insecurities at this moment in time.

My opinion is one thing and I don’t know how to comfort or advice her.
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Carissimi · F
I’m trying to understand this. So, she found out 4-years into the marriage. He bought her a ring 31-years later, which makes 35-years, and now 10-years later, she is upset and feels humiliated. I get feeling upset and humiliated, but why now? Was she upset between years 4 and 31? It’s so bizzar to be upset now that I’m thinking that something else has happened ... like she found out he’s having an affair, maybe? This can rake up all past hurts and insecurities that never actually go away, we just bury them in our “store consciousness (a term from a Buddhist teacher) where they quietly stay until something unearths them, and they rise to the surface. Then it’s old pain on top of new pain. It’s a horrible place to be for anyone. I think you need to find the trigger for all this. Need to know what she’s dealing with before giving advice.
@Carissimi 💯
HotMessExpress102 · 41-45, F
@Carissimi Thank you so much for this. We may have found a way to heal ❤️
Carissimi · F
If you have, please share. It may help me too. I have a burial ground in my store consciousness. 🙏💜@HotMessExpress102
HotMessExpress102 · 41-45, F
@Carissimi I guess it’s not a way to fully heal, but I think we made progress. This is my mom and dad.

My mom actually gave the ring to my little brother to give to his wife and daughter over Christmas. She hadn’t told me or my dad.

Ooh this is so multifaceted, but I think she was feeling guilty for not telling anyone the truth behind her wanting to let go of it.

My momma is such a beautiful person and she first needed to clear her conscious with me and I sure hope she can clear it everywhere else ❤️
@HotMessExpress102 oh my gosh. Light and love to you both. I didn’t know this was about your own parents. Be safe and be well.
HotMessExpress102 · 41-45, F
@JustGoneNow I’ve always known about the ring issue and it has never mattered to me. As her only daughter... I actually would have loved to have it.

Her and I are super tight and I do understand why she didn’t want me to have it.

I just needed to help her... so hard when I can also see my dads side too. Not sure I fully helped, but I did read her these comments as they came through.

Mercy... I love my momma. Now I’m probably gonna cry 😭
@HotMessExpress102 You’re such a sweet daughter. They both must be so proud of you. What love. Be well. 🦋
Carissimi · F
I hope so too. It must have bothered her all these years. @HotMessExpress102