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Man gets engaged to woman 50 years ago.

Woman decides she does not want to marry him and gives the ring back.

Man meets new woman a couple months later and gets engaged to her after one month of dating new woman. Marries her and has children.

Wife never knew about the “repurposed” ring until 4 years into their marriage. Man finally bought her, her own ring 31 years later.

Here we are 46 years later and wife is so upset and reliving all of her past and the time she wore a ring meant for another woman.
The other woman wore her ring and showed it off for 1 year before she broke off the engagement. She feels humiliated. And is feeling a huge amount of insecurities at this moment in time.

My opinion is one thing and I don’t know how to comfort or advice her.

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JustGoneNow Best Comment

Was it tacky? Yes. Are guys sometimes tacky? Yes. In the end, the ring is just a representation of the love they have and their commitment to each other. That’s what matters. If her finding this out… made other things come to light (such as their actual relationship woes, if there are any,) then the ring was never really the problem. If not, focus on the new ring and the time shared. People make mistakes, and some dudes just truly don’t get it or see the problem with it.

aldnazmeister · 56-60, M

@JustGoneNow I agree with you on this.
The man never took the ring back to the store for his money before he met his current wife. He never thought the wiser because most men just don't get it. He didn't buy her a new ring until 31 years later because he couldn't afford it? 🤔
Why is the wife reliving the past? They have been married 50 years. Something else is going on here.
Why is the previous woman feeling humiliated and having security issues 50 years later? 🤔
HME, I don't know you are trying to provide counsel to, but it seems that it would be a difficult situation. 🤗

HotMessExpress102 · 41-45, F

@aldnazmeister Super sound advice and I think got to the bottom of the issue.

She actually did pass on the ring and hasn’t told her husband that she knows about and hasn’t told him she passed to another family member ❤️

JustGoneNow

@HotMessExpress102 I wish you and your friend the very best. Light and love. Be safe and be well. 🦋

cherokeepatti · 61-69, F

@aldnazmeister they probably aren’t going to take a ring back after more than a year or if they do they won’t give but a fraction of what they will sell it for.