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Do you feel that you have to agree with people to be liked?

I always feel like that. That simply expressing a contrary, opposing view is like violence to some people. I can understand it, somewhat, with issues like abortion, religion, politics but even very simple things. Will there ever be a time when people appreciate discussion and learning new things instead of attacking because they feel the need to be 'right'? We can learn from each other. I feel like I'm always walking on egg-shells, apologizing and trying to explain that by disagreeing, I'm not attacking them.

One personal example where I learned from someone online is when a woman, on Twitter, told me Andrew Tate wrote and did some terrible things (prior to his arrest). I had seen an interesting video he posted, I wrote briefly about that and a woman claimed he wrote, and did, awful things. I thought she was just spouting off BS, so I asked for evidence. I looked it up, she was correct. I changed my mind about him.

I'm not here to argue about him, don't care if you love him, I'm just stating an example of how people can and do change their minds. You don't have to attack people, if you don't like their opinion. Find out why they hold that opinion. Sometimes an opinion is held for hateful reasons - racism, sexism etc. and people will side with someone who says similar things to what they feel but you know at the core, their opinion is based on hatred, not evidence.
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Strongtea · 22-25, M
Yes I totally feel I need to agree with people for them to like me, I always seem to change my opinion to fit in but feel rubbish about it.
@Strongtea

I admire your complete honesty on this (and also the bullying thing). You don't prop yourself up, to try and impress people (honestly I'm EXTREMELY sensitive to that being the scapegoat in a family of narcissists). You're going to go far in life because you self-reflect. Well done!
Strongtea · 22-25, M
Thankyou, it’s the main reason I like this place, I feel like I can be totally honest about who I am and what I’ve done. I’m trying to be like that a bit more when I’m off this site, but it does feel way more scary.@Angelwarfare
@Strongtea Impressive! I'm trying to be more like that on here as well but I'm also afraid to open up, at times, as there are a lot of careless or cruel people that like to rip into people being vulnerable. It's sometimes difficult to know how much of yourself you should expose and if you're ready to expose certain parts that are vulnerable to attack.
Strongtea · 22-25, M
I’ve found that some people will be pretty cruel if you’re honest, but I’ve also found that a lot of people will then still talk to you the next day here, like they don’t hold grudges, the nicest friends Ive met on here have all said something harsh to me but have then been positive to me afterwards. @gangstress is a really cool person who I didn’t click with at all for months, but now I know that we might disagree about stuff, but we can generally agree on other things (podcasts lol)@Angelwarfare
@Strongtea Yeah, it just depends on the person and what both you are comfortable with. There are more degenerates than good people here, without a doubt.
Strongtea · 22-25, M
Yep, there’s some weirdos. But they tend to back off if you. Get too real lol. You’ll make some good friends here I think.@Angelwarfare
@Strongtea Thank you T :-)