Do you feel that you have to agree with people to be liked?

I always feel like that. That simply expressing a contrary, opposing view is like violence to some people. I can understand it, somewhat, with issues like abortion, religion, politics but even very simple things. Will there ever be a time when people appreciate discussion and learning new things instead of attacking because they feel the need to be 'right'? We can learn from each other. I feel like I'm always walking on egg-shells, apologizing and trying to explain that by disagreeing, I'm not attacking them.

One personal example where I learned from someone online is when a woman, on Twitter, told me Andrew Tate wrote and did some terrible things (prior to his arrest). I had seen an interesting video he posted, I wrote briefly about that and a woman claimed he wrote, and did, awful things. I thought she was just spouting off BS, so I asked for evidence. I looked it up, she was correct. I changed my mind about him.

I'm not here to argue about him, don't care if you love him, I'm just stating an example of how people can and do change their minds. You don't have to attack people, if you don't like their opinion. Find out why they hold that opinion. Sometimes an opinion is held for hateful reasons - racism, sexism etc. and people will side with someone who says similar things to what they feel but you know at the core, their opinion is based on hatred, not evidence.

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soar2newhighs

Be yourself. You may well have legitimate reasons for disagreeing with them. That’s not on you. If they don’t respect a difference of opinion or a view not in synch with theirs; we’ll that is too bad.

Angelwarfare

@soar2newhighs

Yes, the very common/cliche phrase "Beeee yourself" but not many really are! I actually am one of those people and I'll tell people exactly how I feel online and offline because I really don't give a flying f who likes me or not. That said, unfortunately, many people in positions of power are stupid and small-minded. For example, they will find a reason to fire you (OR online, ban you) if they they disagree strongly with something you say. It's just the way the world works. You can't go around disagreeing with people and expect good things to happen to you. I know you mean well, but I really hope this is the last comment like this (but I'm happy you commented, you seem nice and reasonable). lol I promise I won't hate you for misunderstanding!

soar2newhighs

@Angelwarfare I see it like this: if you are willing to let others have dominance over you because you disagreed with them, then you become the loser.
You said it yourself, you don’t give a flying f. No argument t there.
Sadly as you say, there are those who are not able to deal with this. In their case either the wake up call will come or it won’t
It’s not about going around and disagreeing. It’s about not being afraid that you won’t be liked. Here your “I don’t give a flying f..” should come into play.
And here’s tenet, call it a cliche if you want: You are the most important person in your life!”

Angelwarfare

@soar2newhighs I agree with that, it's true but it's a case of idealism vs reality. Similar to something like it would be so wonderful if there were absolutely no guns/borders in the world vs. there are still violent people out there that can use knives, bombs, planes etc regardless.

Have you been banned online a lot? I have. Probably a 1000 times over the years for expressing what I know to be true and other people disagreeing with it. The reality is if you don't want problems and you want to eat, have a place to live you HAVE to agree with people because if you don't, if there is disagreement, you're gone. I'm not afraid of anyone, I'm feisty and as a woman, have never backed down or cowered from a man, I just know the reality of the world. Hope that helps you see my point of view.