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Do you feel that you have to agree with people to be liked?

I always feel like that. That simply expressing a contrary, opposing view is like violence to some people. I can understand it, somewhat, with issues like abortion, religion, politics but even very simple things. Will there ever be a time when people appreciate discussion and learning new things instead of attacking because they feel the need to be 'right'? We can learn from each other. I feel like I'm always walking on egg-shells, apologizing and trying to explain that by disagreeing, I'm not attacking them.

One personal example where I learned from someone online is when a woman, on Twitter, told me Andrew Tate wrote and did some terrible things (prior to his arrest). I had seen an interesting video he posted, I wrote briefly about that and a woman claimed he wrote, and did, awful things. I thought she was just spouting off BS, so I asked for evidence. I looked it up, she was correct. I changed my mind about him.

I'm not here to argue about him, don't care if you love him, I'm just stating an example of how people can and do change their minds. You don't have to attack people, if you don't like their opinion. Find out why they hold that opinion. Sometimes an opinion is held for hateful reasons - racism, sexism etc. and people will side with someone who says similar things to what they feel but you know at the core, their opinion is based on hatred, not evidence.
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Colonelmustardseed · 36-40 Best Comment
No one really likes a “yes man.” You can’t be truly liked for agreeing. I don’t argue with others anymore though. I rarely state my opinion with people I don’t know because I find that most really just want to express their own opinions. They want to be heard, and they take disagreement as not being heard out. So I practice my listening skills.
@Colonelmustardseed

"You can’t be truly liked for agreeing"

Yeah, absolutely true. I know what what you mean as I've thought of it terms of relationships offline. If I'm myself, and someone doesn't like me, then what's the point of trying to get them to like me? I find it absolutely insane that women will chase men that don't like them. It's pathetic and the worst idea possible.

It's probably good to keep your opinions to yourself and that's what I usually do in a workplace setting (difficult coworkers, etc). Unfortunately after a while, that takes its toll if you are being taken advantage or there is bullying going on.

I really don't think many people are mature enough to accept that other people have different, valid opinions. There are opinions that come from pain and as you very wisely pointed out, they just want to express their own opinions, to be heard. Often it's not a rational opinion, just one held because of insecurity, fragility, hatred etc (racism, sexism for example). The simplest way of explaining it, for me, is it's ego. It comes from that place of hell and pain, not goodness. Sometimes it's hard to see it for what it is but you've already genuinely helped me so thank you!
@Angelwarfare Yes. Definitely ego. It would be great if we could all be okay with realizing when we’re wrong or not informed enough, and be happy finding truth the way you had in your example. I respect you for that. 🙂
@Colonelmustardseed It's always a nice feeling to have someone observe when you're trying to be reasonable/objective rather than attack what they don't understand to stroke their own ego in the process. Appreciate that! I feel understood. 🙂
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@Colonelmustardseed [quote]No one really likes a “yes man.”[/quote]

Except all people who love to use others.
@Queendragonfly i.e. narcissists lol
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
@Angelwarfare Plenty of people who aren't narcissists does it too though.
@Queendragonfly Most definitely. Some have narcissistic tendencies 😂 i.e. complete self-abortion, lack of empathy, unable to see things from another's point of view, selfishness.
@Queendragonfly That’s not genuine though. They like the boost to their egos; not the person.
@Colonelmustardseed

If we could just solve this problem, the world would be such a better place! 😂 It would heal. It's such a very fine balance in each person. Some can only tear down others to feel secure. I do think it's great to build people up but then you also encounter the problem of them taking that praise and building their egos up to the point they're tearing others down. It's frustrating as hell. I guess focus on the people that you think are worth the effort?