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Do you feel that you have to agree with people to be liked?

I always feel like that. That simply expressing a contrary, opposing view is like violence to some people. I can understand it, somewhat, with issues like abortion, religion, politics but even very simple things. Will there ever be a time when people appreciate discussion and learning new things instead of attacking because they feel the need to be 'right'? We can learn from each other. I feel like I'm always walking on egg-shells, apologizing and trying to explain that by disagreeing, I'm not attacking them.

One personal example where I learned from someone online is when a woman, on Twitter, told me Andrew Tate wrote and did some terrible things (prior to his arrest). I had seen an interesting video he posted, I wrote briefly about that and a woman claimed he wrote, and did, awful things. I thought she was just spouting off BS, so I asked for evidence. I looked it up, she was correct. I changed my mind about him.

I'm not here to argue about him, don't care if you love him, I'm just stating an example of how people can and do change their minds. You don't have to attack people, if you don't like their opinion. Find out why they hold that opinion. Sometimes an opinion is held for hateful reasons - racism, sexism etc. and people will side with someone who says similar things to what they feel but you know at the core, their opinion is based on hatred, not evidence.
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Henal · 26-30, F
No. I am more than willing to listen and discuss other people’s opinions, but I won’t agree with them on the basis of wanting to be liked. I'll agree with them only if that's what I really believe, otherwise I'll accept the difference of opinion and move on.
@Henal You don't find that people get extremely angry when you disagree with them?
Henal · 26-30, F
@Angelwarfare Oh for sure, I do. It’s unpleasant, but I’d rather not comprise my own beliefs just to appease someone else.
@Henal Absolutely agree. I figure if people hate me for something like that, they aren't worth knowing at all, doesn't affect what I say. I do worry often about being banned though. If you have a unusual opinion that isn't held by many people, it's very common to get banned. Example: If the person who is running the site is misogynistic (common in the tech world), you'll find that only women get banned and men are free to say any sexist, terrible thing they like.
Henal · 26-30, F
@Angelwarfare Yeah I understand what you mean. It can be really stupid, especially when this site was specifically made to allow you to express yourself.
@Henal Yeah, exactly. I've found throughout time that if you go up again misogynistic jerks who directly say misogynistic hateful things about women, you simply can't say what you really think as you'll get a gang of hateful, angry men reporting you for pointing out truth (like violence stats).
Henal · 26-30, F
@Angelwarfare That’s one of the flaws of this site and its members.
@Henal Yeah, it pretty true everywhere.