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What do you think of men who do this?

At work we have this trash collector. He's a young guy of 20 or 22.

He frequently lowers his gaze when he talks to women. Like he never looks you in the eye. Just the 1st glance then he looks down/away.

He's a religious muslim and in Islam that's part of the teachings. It's called غض البصر. Don't stare so you don't get turned on.

But it's an obsolete one nowadays and most don't do it anyway.

Some women get offended by the extreme lack of eye contact. Some are trying to mock & tease him.

As a whole we kinda find it funny & out of place bc he's overdoing it. With the guys his eye contact is just fine.

But – personally I kinda feel bad for him and think it's cute. He's very polite and sort of shy otherwise. I told my female coworkers to leave him tf alone.
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When I was 12 I went to an eye doctor and the nurse would frequently lash out at me for no reason. It scared me.

Later on, I realized I kept lowering my gaze.

Guys don't realize they do it. Some learn earlier than others.

You're sweet for defending him.
SW-User
What a trashy nurse. The essence of her job is to be caring AND you were just a kid. I'm sorry she treated you like that ):
@SinlessOnslaught
@SW-User Awww thanks. I learned from it though. I look women in the eyes.

Sounds like this guy just hasn't had his "nurse lashing out" moment yet. 😆

Maybe you could say something to him subtly or hint somehow? I'm not sure what you could do or say but it's something to think about.
SW-User
I am glad you learned from it with a positive attitude (:

I am being casually nice. I greet him and say thank you but I don't engage in personal conversations bc from what I've seen with other women, it definitely makes him feel uncomfortable.

@SinlessOnslaught