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What do you think of men who do this?

At work we have this trash collector. He's a young guy of 20 or 22.

He frequently lowers his gaze when he talks to women. Like he never looks you in the eye. Just the 1st glance then he looks down/away.

He's a religious muslim and in Islam that's part of the teachings. It's called غض البصر. Don't stare so you don't get turned on.

But it's an obsolete one nowadays and most don't do it anyway.

Some women get offended by the extreme lack of eye contact. Some are trying to mock & tease him.

As a whole we kinda find it funny & out of place bc he's overdoing it. With the guys his eye contact is just fine.

But – personally I kinda feel bad for him and think it's cute. He's very polite and sort of shy otherwise. I told my female coworkers to leave him tf alone.
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BlueVeins · 26-30
Sexual repression is a pernicious infection.
SW-User
I kind of agree here. At times when you stop yourself from doing something so bad you will only want it more. Still I respect the guy's choices. His willpower is unbreakable so far. Lol @BlueVeins
BlueVeins · 26-30
@SW-User To be frank, I don't respect it at all when it leads you to do things which make other people uncomfortable. I'm glad you find it cute at least, but his behavior sounds like it could reasonably creep other people out and I don't blame anyone for being upset by it. IDK, I guess what I'm really not respectful of is the staring, but that seems sorta like an inevitable consequence imo.
Peterpaul17 · 36-40, M
@BlueVeins But your views hardly matter. I have seen people who respect women and out of this respect, turn their eyes down and not look like a frog - eyed man to them.
Peterpaul17 · 36-40, M
@SW-User You find it cute because this is how psychology works and this is how, he abides by what he is told to. So, he is a defender who will defend anything for what he loves. You know that very well.
Peterpaul17 · 36-40, M
@SW-User In other words, you like his strength.
SW-User
@Peterpaul17

Well, a distinction has to be made here. I thought "cute" bc I am taking his character into account. As I said he's rather shy & meek and also merely a 20 y/o.

If this was a 35 y/o confident yet respectful man I'd be like "hmm, interesting" lol.

But if he was the rude aggressive type then looking constantly away would make me feel like I'm nothing but a sexual object. I'd find that insulting indeed.

So to me this largely depends on the guy's attitude.
Peterpaul17 · 36-40, M
@SW-User I Have seen guys 35 years old and following the same, will treat you with utmost respect but at the same time, will do their vows to the Lord they care about. It's not about thinking women as sexual object rather it is trying to be sinless in his own eyes.

In this case, Maybe he is just too young but I think he will flourish as he age.
pianoplayingsteve · 31-35, M
@BlueVeins I live in an Islamic country and everyone just looks at everyone else like normal.
BlueVeins · 26-30
@pianoplayingsteve Yeah, that's bc they all watch 4 hours of porn in secret when they get homeeeee