@JimboSaturn my wife says i only have 2 faults....
Everything i say and everything i do

@tornado58 bless you sir 😁

@SpectralMourning DON’T

@BlameBrett Is this post about me?

@SpectralMourning clouds in my coffee.

@looking4thesun lol

@Neuman then order a pizza lol.

@GoFish I was expecting a list, not an existential crisis.

@BlameBrett life ***** with us lol

@WanderingHelplessly you’re a good one :)

@WanderingHelplessly i dont know i single feminist.. its almost like its a funded media driven devide and conquer campiengn..

@WanderingHelplessly I think most of us woman are referring to specific men we’ve dealt with in our lives and it’s in humour. We really don’t think all of you are bad lol. I’m sure some of you men have dealt with jerk woman too. But you don’t hate all of us either.

@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout *sigh* Well, I was having a good day. I think maybe I will go to bed now, and I'll take a break from SW

@Lostpoet that’s where I keep my vegetables I buy and never get around to eating.

@BlameBrett You U.K?

@Lostpoet Canadian, UK’s little cousin. Lol

@EndlessHorizon The bear is always the safer bet lol.

@Sequoia51 Straight to the point. No notes.

@BlameBrett No accusations, no defense.

@BlameBrett There are manuals somewhere

@BlameBrett that's why they invented air horns - and tazers!

@Pretzel and the pepper spray.

@Thodsis 🤡🤡🤡

@BuzzedLightyear That's an emoticon that I haven't seen before.

Is three clowns a good thing?

@Sidewinder that only covers the last few years though. What was wrong with you all before the AI.

@Sidewinder
"ArtificalIntelligence" is one word, not two.

Too bad you shot yourself in the foot and lost the contest... 🧐

@BlameBrett no instruction manual is a blessing and a curse. It's the fun of getting to know oneself and also one another if one is willing. But it's frustrating when there's a misunderstanding and you really want to work things out. But the fact that we change as we age and have more experiences also keeps us guessing over and over again. The strangest phenomena is that once we have what we think we want, what we think we want now changes too. It doesn't just happen with Toys and things. It happens with circumstances/parts of relationships.

@Mindful I appreciate this response, and I get what you’re saying. I’ve just been through it the last few years, so at this point, I feel like I need the instruction manual before I even consider trying again. Tbink I might be better to just not try again. No instruction manual required :)

@BlameBrett That's the natural response to pain. When we hurt a muscle we stop wanting to move it. It's natural fear response to pain. It requires physical therapy and movement to heal. I'm guessing affairs of the heart work similarly. I know I don't want anymore pain in my life and I'm starting to close myself off socially in the real world. I am turning to THIS site for my social interaction. Here I get a safe distance and some closeness at the same time. I am in a healthy marriage tho. Not perfect, but happily married. People think marriage is the answer to everything. It's not. People need people. I hope you find your person, but be on th lookout for more than just your one person. Find friends and if possible connect with family.

@SUPERVlXEN That sums it up lol. And thanks for the new song.

@BlameBrett
We don’t need to complicate things, one word… right!?

@RebelRaven

@RebelRaven mmmhmmm

@Sutten So should try turning them off and on again?

@BlameBrett That only works if they have an operating system. 🙂 I should really stop now. 🙂

@Degbeme I have to give you credit for being brave enough to enter this thread though. Good man lol

@BlameBrett I`m not stranger at poking fun at myself. ;)

@MellyMel22 Oh absolutely, dishonesty is an equal opportunity employer. But we’re just picking on the men today cos I felt like it lol.

@DancingStarGoddess yes, those are the words.

@JohnnyNoir Thisiscompletlynewinformationtomeididnotknowthat.

@BlameBrett wellnowyouknow

@JohnnyNoir thankyouman.

@Magenta yes.

@ElyssTTTrucks So men are just out here being too nice now? What a time to be alive. tbh I don’t really understand the term simping. Lol.

@BlameBrett Look at many of the comments anytime anyone posts a nude woman pic. That does not entirely explain simping but it does expose a certain mindset. Born out of thirstiness and happy to toss aside personal pride and self respect.

Now, I have commented myself on some nude woman posts.
But there are some who are on just about every nude woman post and always saying the same sort of things.

@JimboSaturn Honestly, I think we all are.

@Unefilletrescurieuse you can do more than word if you want to :) I just thought one word was easy lol it’s not a hard rule though.

@BlameBrett I best not… they’d all hate me. Lol

@BlameBrett I think the hardest thing, specifically for me, was finding a purpose that I couldn't tether to romance in any way. In my case, I always wanted to, but the experiences I had often pushed me away from it.
It's definitely harder to find purpose nowadays as the shift away from traditional gender roles has made it unclear which path people want to take. It does mean that we need more societal evolution but it also means we need more dialogue to find where compromises are possible.
I think most people want to have a relationship of some kind, but at the moment, it's unclear how those relationships form with the evolving zeitgeist.
I think it will be a pendulum swing. It will swing further away from relationships for a time, but eventually there will be collections of people wanting to resurrect that and redefine healthy relationships in a modern context.
It's definitely unhealthy to blame problems on anyone. Blame doesn't help. In every circumstance, man or woman, we should always ask, what could I have done better? Not from a place of insecurity or feeling like we're not good enough, but from a place of knowing we always need to improve.

@Kodel I think people are probably just rethinking what they actually want these days. I don’t think it’s necessarily that people don’t want relationships, but maybe they’re less willing to settle just for the sake of being in one. There’s nothing wrong with wanting someone in your life, but I don’t think a relationship should have to be what gives your life purpose. You can be happy on your own and still want someone to share things with.

And I agree that looking at your own part in things is important but I think there’s a difference between taking accountability and blaming yourself for things that weren’t yours to begin with. There’s only so much self improvement a person can do before they start needing a freakin medal for putting up with people lol.

@BlameBrett Stat wise, men in particular are walking away from relationships. There are a myriad of reasons for it, some of them personal to men others, not so much.
In my personal case, I would disagree that relationships shouldn't be what give you purpose. Ideally, for me, whatever you do in life is dedicated to that one person who is always there for you at the end of it all.
It's a difficult line to learn, let alone walk when it comes to being in a relationship for the sake of being in one as opposed to being in one because both people love each other. The latter of those two being extremely difficult to acquire and maintain in a healthy and consistent manner.
Some people can be happy without romance or without that specific kind of connection, but those people are quite rare. I myself, know that I'm not one of them, yet I've accepted that that is likely the path I will take. What I came to accept is that life isn't about happiness. It is about love, but sometimes you don't get the love that you want. The only thing you have control over is the love you choose to give.

There's also a moderate spectrum between accountability and blaming yourself. You can still look at a situation where objectively, you didn't do anything wrong but potentially, there are still things you could have done better. It's not blaming yourself, it's just constant self evaluation. Fundamentally, there should never be a moment where you fully discredit your own actions as having nothing to do with your circumstances. In doing so, you rob yourself of chances to learn about how your faults affect your life in ways that are harder to observe.
I agree that everyone has a threshold, but even if you reach that supposed threshold, it doesn't mean you stop evaluating. Eventually, you will find something else to work on. The gaps just get wider between lessons.

@Sharon3948
Yes, I think you may end up in trouble with the Word Police for using way too many words in your answer.

@swirlie Spanking coming for sure

@Sharon3948
For sure! A good spanking always precedes a debriefing.

@Prettybratbi1tch there are some good ones out there.

@Kiesel where do you start, right!? Lol

@RebelRaven reasons are endless!!

@Unefilletrescurieuse exactly!

@swirlie Well, at least we’ve established there’s a problem.