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Does anyone know why some messages go to your inbox and others go to the "request" folder? [I Blah]

If you know please tell me?

SW admins - it is the most annoying thing about this website. because I get zero notifications. I have to literally go to my mail icon and click "requests".

see..unlike most people.....I dont get mail notifications often so theres never really a reason for me to click my mailbox... hence I accidentally ignore people.

and responding to them like 3 months later kinda sucks. for both of us.
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NotJamieM46-50, M
It's strange. Once you've messaged someone and they respond, it's not supposed to go in there. But if you archive a convo for whatever reason and then the person messages you, it can be in there. Sometimes when someone I've never talked to messages me it goes there; other times it's in my regula mailbox. I can't figure it out. 馃ぃ馃ぃ
SW-User
@NotJamieM [c=004A59]Glad you shared this. Now I don't feel so bad. The admins really ought to do something about it. I just checked and found I had 2 messages and zero notifications.[/c]
NotJamieM46-50, M
@SW-User yeah I've had that happen. Sometimes there's messages you really don't want to respond to, bit I've found "good" ones in there.
SW-User
@NotJamieM [c=004A59]That's what I meant. They weren't rude or dirty messages, and now I feel 馃槕 馃槓[/c]
NotJamieM46-50, M
@SW-User just tell them the message went into that folder, and you didn't even know that was a thing until you read this post, lol. I'd totally understand that. Most here would.
SW-User
@NotJamieM [c=004A59]Yep. I instantly responded exactly as you said before I posted here...but I STILL feel chagrined. 馃槅[/c]
NotJamieM46-50, M
@SW-User I know what you mean. I don't really see the point of the whole thing, tbh. Someone cant send you a picture until you respond to their message, so all you see are words. If it's weird you just don't respond, or if it's really weird you block. I'd just as soon they all be in one place, it makes it easier.
SW-User
@NotJamieM [c=004A59]True. I feel our accounts and any content we create should be under our control and not that of the system. In 2019, I left an online forum for similar reasons...it was MUCH worse than here in terms of being over-controlled.[/c]
NotJamieM46-50, M
@SW-User I think the intent is admirable because they're trying to avoid stalking. I just don't see how this helps. If I message you twice and you don't respond, then I'm blocked from trying any more, and can't send pics. If you did respond and I suddenly got out of line, you could block me and that's the end of it. But messages are in there people don't know about, sometimes from people they would want to talk to. Do not only does it not really do anything to prevent harassment that I can see, but it could serve as an impediment to some people connecting.
SW-User
@NotJamieM [c=004A59]Yes...obviously. As I was saying, imagine my chagrin at finding 2 unopened message "requests" in my inbox from someone I've been talking to in the posts. As I said earlier, I wouldn't have know they were there if I hadn't seen this thread (!!) [/c]
NotJamieM46-50, M
@SW-User yeah,you feel bad, even though you shouldn't, lol.