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Does anyone know why some messages go to your inbox and others go to the "request" folder? [I Blah]

If you know please tell me?

SW admins - it is the most annoying thing about this website. because I get zero notifications. I have to literally go to my mail icon and click "requests".

see..unlike most people.....I dont get mail notifications often so theres never really a reason for me to click my mailbox... hence I accidentally ignore people.

and responding to them like 3 months later kinda sucks. for both of us.
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nonsensiclesnail · 46-50, F Best Comment
No idea. I’ve checked my settings. I’ve read the FAQ about private messages. I’ve found nothing that addresses this.
I run into the same issue and feel guilt for ignoring people.
Suzyques · 31-35, F
[@441353,nonsensiclesnail] best comment cause maybe the two of us can shed some light on it lol
nonsensiclesnail · 46-50, F
[@1130342,Suzyques] thank you 🙂

HannahSky · F
Message filter settings must be all checked.
Suzyques · 31-35, F
[@868864,HannahSky] by any chance can you tell me where? The only "contact and content" setting I have is "block those under 18".
HannahSky · F
[@1130342,Suzyques] go into your requests and on the bottom there should be a message filter and options.
HannahSky · F
[@1130342,Suzyques] also, save the ones you choose at the bottom
hunkalove · 61-69, M
This is a very primitive website. You have to check "Requests" frequently.
[@1130342,Suzyques] [c=004A59]I have an evil twin running around on SW...someone else here I noticed has a similar profile pic. I don't know that person though. I only used this one on EP at Halloween.[/c]
Suzyques · 31-35, F
[@1217106,Vampyr] what was your name on ep? mine is the same
[@1130342,Suzyques] [c=004A59]BeautyinDarkness. This was between 2007-2009. I tried logging in here with that name, but the system told me it was taken by someeone else.[/c]
Fertilization · 31-35, F
I want to know the same.
pattycakechamp · 26-30, F
It's a filter. I forgot about it and just checked, blocked a LOT of weirdos.
iamnikki · 26-30, F
I think it does that if you've never interacted with that person before. That way you're not getting crazy/dirty messages...unless you want them
kodiac · 18-21, M
[@467302,iamnikki] That's right.
[@467302,iamnikki] [c=004A59]That can't be the answer, because I've gotten crazy/dirty messages from first timers before.[/c]
iamnikki · 26-30, F
[@1217106,Vampyr] hmm well Idk
NotJamieM · 46-50, M
It's strange. Once you've messaged someone and they respond, it's not supposed to go in there. But if you archive a convo for whatever reason and then the person messages you, it can be in there. Sometimes when someone I've never talked to messages me it goes there; other times it's in my regula mailbox. I can't figure it out. 🤣🤣
NotJamieM · 46-50, M
[@1217106,Vampyr] I think the intent is admirable because they're trying to avoid stalking. I just don't see how this helps. If I message you twice and you don't respond, then I'm blocked from trying any more, and can't send pics. If you did respond and I suddenly got out of line, you could block me and that's the end of it. But messages are in there people don't know about, sometimes from people they would want to talk to. Do not only does it not really do anything to prevent harassment that I can see, but it could serve as an impediment to some people connecting.
[@570785,NotJamieM] [c=004A59]Yes...obviously. As I was saying, imagine my chagrin at finding 2 unopened message "requests" in my inbox from someone I've been talking to in the posts. As I said earlier, I wouldn't have know they were there if I hadn't seen this thread (!!) [/c]
NotJamieM · 46-50, M
[@1217106,Vampyr] yeah,you feel bad, even though you shouldn't, lol.
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
I wouldn't worry... Just a habit to get into ...
Suzyques · 31-35, F
[@516864,ozgirl512] me and SW have an on again off again relationship. hard to get into the habit lol
ozgirl512 · 26-30, F
[@1130342,Suzyques] it can be like that at times lol...
[c=004A59]OMG. If you hadn't posted this, I wouldn't have checked my messages...I've accidentally ignored someone for 3 days. I am chagrined. 😑[/c]
HairbrushDiva · 31-35, F
I don't know. I wish they would all go straight to inbox.
Piper · 61-69, F
I don't, and have no restrictions in my settings on who can send messages to my inbox...except for logged out users viewing my profile.

There have been a few times for me also, when I'd liked to have seen a message in that "Requests" folder sooner. I rarely check it, unless someone here mentions it.

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