Explanation: This isn't a jab at men, nor the idea that gender norms should be abolished. This is saying: Instead of telling boys "wear this color, it's for boys", we often tell them "don't wear that color, it's for girls", subconsciously instilling the idea that being a girl is undesirable.

The consequences can be seen reflected in female behavior too, such as when so called pick-me-girls adopt the hobbies and opinions of men, in order to appeal to the opposite sex after failing to establish healthy romantic connections with men.

Many parents do this without even noticing it, and it's essentially causing conflict in how men and women relate to each other, as well as creating an idea that girly things aren't as worthy of respect as manly things. It doesn't only affect how men view other men, but also how men view women, which is almost never an indended side-effect; that's what I find quite interesting about it.

I def believe that boys raised by loving men are taught to be men

It's a good observation, does explain some things!!

I was not fully indoctrinated into this mindset, but I can definitely say she's spot on about the pressures I had experienced while growing up. There's very little focus about how to be a good person and a lot of focus on what shouldn't be done because those are girl things. We're told what not to do, left to figure out what we should do on our own, and then belittled and punished if we figure out the wrong lessons. I generally get along better with women than other men just because of how toxic "manliness" can be.

Gender norms are for f@gs.

:c