Admit something
Admit something about yourself
I have never had a Starbucks
I have never had a Starbucks
51-55, M
This page is a permanent link to the reply below and its nested replies. See all post replies »
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@swirlie Oh I think I know the source of a lot of it.
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@swirlie
The issue is half solved then ...
I didn't say it was an issue for me.
swirlie · F
@sarabee1995
...no you didn't say it was an issue, but isn't.. "a lot of anger inside me that I hide well", not an issue of itself?
My point was, it wasn't the 'source' itself that is the primary issue, it's the pent-up anger we hide inside ourselves that becomes the real issue for us.
...no you didn't say it was an issue, but isn't.. "a lot of anger inside me that I hide well", not an issue of itself?
My point was, it wasn't the 'source' itself that is the primary issue, it's the pent-up anger we hide inside ourselves that becomes the real issue for us.
swirlie · F
@sarabee1995
Did you know that all anger in any form has it's basis rooted in fear?
One cannot feel the emotion of anger if they are not first feeling a sense of fear about something which then becomes the catalyst for anger to even exist in the first place. That being said, one can conclude that you are actually motivated by fear, not anger, if as you say you are using anger as a motivational well of energy to draw from.
Sometimes it is a motivator. A well of energy to draw from.
Did you know that all anger in any form has it's basis rooted in fear?
One cannot feel the emotion of anger if they are not first feeling a sense of fear about something which then becomes the catalyst for anger to even exist in the first place. That being said, one can conclude that you are actually motivated by fear, not anger, if as you say you are using anger as a motivational well of energy to draw from.
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@swirlie Interesting. I'm not sure that I agree.
I've often seen injustice in front of me. That injustice angers me. I'm not afraid of it, but I'm pissed off. And so, I act.
Here's an example from about a year ago: https://similarworlds.com/fighting-martial-arts/4608160-One-punch-Sorry-its-not-more-SW-but-it-really-was-just-one
I've often seen injustice in front of me. That injustice angers me. I'm not afraid of it, but I'm pissed off. And so, I act.
Here's an example from about a year ago: https://similarworlds.com/fighting-martial-arts/4608160-One-punch-Sorry-its-not-more-SW-but-it-really-was-just-one
swirlie · F
@sarabee1995
Okay, so I read it all and deduced that you never bothered to come forward and press charges like you'd been pondering doing for the benefit of any future victims of that guy, because as you've stated, 'you never had time to deal with any of it with the police'.
To have let that one go, even if you were very busy and didn't need that action on your plate that day, it makes me wonder why you even bothered training for martial arts? 🤔
If that same guy came onto you, would you just stand there and let him assault you, or would you use your martial arts training on his sorry butt?
We both know the answer to that one, so then why would you not get involved with the police on behalf of someone who was not trained in martial arts, particularly when you knew intuitively that the assailant in question was going to present more trouble in the future?
To be pissed off is not an expression of love, I can assure you of that! And if being pissed off is not an expression of love for the self, then being pissed off can only be an expression of hatred for the self which is usually expressed as anger in any form that is projected outward and directed toward someone else.
Reality occurs this way because only 'love' or 'hate' can exist in the moment, but they cannot exist simultaneously in our world. This is because love and hate are opposites to each other with nothing 'real' existing in-between called 'grey areas' (called being pissed off) when you apply the true meaning of 'love' to the real world which is our authentic self as we were created within our universe as a function of 'love', not as a function of hate projected as anger, even in anger's greyest forms called '40 shades of being pissed off'!
Okay, so I read it all and deduced that you never bothered to come forward and press charges like you'd been pondering doing for the benefit of any future victims of that guy, because as you've stated, 'you never had time to deal with any of it with the police'.
To have let that one go, even if you were very busy and didn't need that action on your plate that day, it makes me wonder why you even bothered training for martial arts? 🤔
If that same guy came onto you, would you just stand there and let him assault you, or would you use your martial arts training on his sorry butt?
We both know the answer to that one, so then why would you not get involved with the police on behalf of someone who was not trained in martial arts, particularly when you knew intuitively that the assailant in question was going to present more trouble in the future?
To be pissed off is not an expression of love, I can assure you of that! And if being pissed off is not an expression of love for the self, then being pissed off can only be an expression of hatred for the self which is usually expressed as anger in any form that is projected outward and directed toward someone else.
Reality occurs this way because only 'love' or 'hate' can exist in the moment, but they cannot exist simultaneously in our world. This is because love and hate are opposites to each other with nothing 'real' existing in-between called 'grey areas' (called being pissed off) when you apply the true meaning of 'love' to the real world which is our authentic self as we were created within our universe as a function of 'love', not as a function of hate projected as anger, even in anger's greyest forms called '40 shades of being pissed off'!
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@swirlie I'm not sure where you got the impression that I did not follow through with the police. It is discussed at length in the comments on that story and I did tell several people there that I did proceed.
I went down and completed a full statement and pressed charges. The prosecutor called me a little over two months after to let me know that the guy signed a plea deal for a lesser charge and I wouldn't need to testify.
As for your thoughts on love and hate and everything in between, I'm not sure I understand your point, but I'm happy to discuss if you'd like.
I went down and completed a full statement and pressed charges. The prosecutor called me a little over two months after to let me know that the guy signed a plea deal for a lesser charge and I wouldn't need to testify.
As for your thoughts on love and hate and everything in between, I'm not sure I understand your point, but I'm happy to discuss if you'd like.
Livingwell · 61-69, M
@sarabee1995 I never would have guessed. But I know that you are not someone to mess with. 😉
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@Livingwell What part of my conversation with Swirlie would you never have guessed??
Livingwell · 61-69, M
@sarabee1995 That you hide anger. I'm not a fan of injustice either. It's a moral compass/core value thing.
swirlie · F
@sarabee1995
Where I got the impression that you did not follow through with the police is because as I've already made reference to in my previous posted comment, you specifically stated in the last paragraph of that linked story that you didn't know if you should press charges or not because you didn't want to get involved with any of it.
Nowhere in that original, posted story is this quote of your's above even mentioned, nor did you state anywhere in that story that you went to the police and filed paperwork and pressed charges. In fact, you wrote in that story's last paragraph that you did the opposite... you did nothing because you weren't sure if you want to get involved. In the last paragraph you had mention 10 days had passed when finally the police contacted you but you weren't sure what to do.
I'm not sure where you got the impression that I did not follow through with the police. It is discussed at length in the comments on that story and I did tell several people there that I did proceed.
Where I got the impression that you did not follow through with the police is because as I've already made reference to in my previous posted comment, you specifically stated in the last paragraph of that linked story that you didn't know if you should press charges or not because you didn't want to get involved with any of it.
I went down and completed a full statement and pressed charges. The prosecutor called me a little over two months after to let me know that the guy signed a plea deal for a lesser charge and I wouldn't need to testify.
Nowhere in that original, posted story is this quote of your's above even mentioned, nor did you state anywhere in that story that you went to the police and filed paperwork and pressed charges. In fact, you wrote in that story's last paragraph that you did the opposite... you did nothing because you weren't sure if you want to get involved. In the last paragraph you had mention 10 days had passed when finally the police contacted you but you weren't sure what to do.
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@Livingwell Oh! My original comment! Got it. I thought you were commenting on our chat.
@swirlie You are right about the original posted story. In the comments, however, the issue of pressing charges was thoroughly discussed from several difference perspectives and I agreed to work with the prosecutor (which I did). Sorry for the confusion. :)
@swirlie You are right about the original posted story. In the comments, however, the issue of pressing charges was thoroughly discussed from several difference perspectives and I agreed to work with the prosecutor (which I did). Sorry for the confusion. :)