If your friend is smoking two packs a day, drinking a 12 pack of beer, and knocking down 3 big macs a day........

are you doing them a favor by telling them the world should love them just the way they are ??? are we helping them jump into an early grave by telling them everything is gonna be okay ??

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DrWatson · 70-79, M

Why not both.

"I love you just the way you are. And because I love you, I care about your well being. So I want to urge you to please make some changes, because you are killing yourself, and I hate to see that."

Losing weight is not a prerequisite for being loved, but that does not mean I need to be complacent about the person's weight. There is a difference between loving a person and enabling a person.