Words and actions

I've had a random thought today.

People are always quick to claim that actions speak louder than words, but at the same time, they believe words quite easily too.

And once you've spoken them (or they've heared it from someone), they start to form an idea about you that matches those words. They start to look for signs that proof them.

Ultimately, a lot of people start to put up blinds towards your actions if they don't match the idea they've formed of you.

We are but fragments of illusions formed by others, and a mixture of wishes we want to portray.

Who we really are, is merely a choice of who we want to be that day. And yet, others might not even see you in that way.

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dale74 · M

Another important thing of actions and words dont care what others think they are just upset you are the better person. Another person who is of similar Character just appreciates more people being thoughtful and kind and does not get jealous or speak ill of you.

kimmy159 · F

@dale74 When I was at a work party, I've told one of my colleagues that my kid of 3 is quite good at manipulating people.
She jokingly asked me whom he gets it from.
I jokingly replied: "from me of course! I can easily read people as well and I can easily see how I could influence them if I wanted to!" I've had a few glasses of alcohol when I said that 😅

Later there have been situations in work where I subtly manipulated the situation (for greater good since that is my role as well), and my colleague is the only one who sees my influence now because she knows about that trait since I highlighted it by accident :-))

dale74 · M

@kimmy159 i have doen similar most people want to do the right thing but someone has to lead or give guidance.

kimmy159 · F

@dale74 My boss has had the same bookkeeper for over 15 years. My predecessor has been trying to get them fired for years because they're really not adequate. I joined the company in January and made the situation blow up (but also was the one to step in to solve it) because we really need to change agencies and stop losing money.
My colleague was thrilled when she heared we were changing agencies and she was like: "I bet you have something to do with it."
😅

It's all good, until she'll make a wrong connection that isn't there 😶 Or starts to assume I will be able to influence our boss in other ways. It's about time for her to get a new company car and I'm stuck in the middle of them as being in charge of finance & fleet. Their expectations don't match eachother's and they both expect me to do the communication on their behalf 😒

dale74 · M

@kimmy159 What does the company look to procure what does employee a want

kimmy159 · F

@dale74 Accountancy rules in Belgium are complicated, basically my boss only wants to purchase cars that are max deductable from taxes and with the highest re-sale value. In his mind, that is only Tesla at the moment. But not everyone likes Tesla (I don't either and I also have to choose a car). We're more fond of Volvo's or BMW's, the Volkswagen ID4 etc.
His alternative is a much cheaper Kia car he wants to give us but we don't agree to downsize just because he isn't getting his way 🤷‍♀️