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Apparently, gay lives don't matter!

I was more than a little disheartened when I watched an interview of several highly intellectual leaders of several different African countries expressing their opinions of gay people,
A few sample comments from educated black men. "They are totally disgusting" " They are the antithesis of traditional family values, ( A frequent lie told in the USA) " We simply do not recognize them as part of our country's population" etc. etc.

Hatred of gays is on the rise in the USA especially by the so-called "Christian Nationalist" who want our rights to go the way of a woman choice.

I have heard a few blacks express they don't welcome "support" from guilt ridden liberal snowflakes", and similar other comments.

I may lean to the left and support social programs, I'm certainly not BLM out of guilt. It's the way I was brought up many decades ago. My mom and dad did not tolerate racism. PERIOD. I have ONE long time (Over a decade between SW and EP) black best friend here I know has my back with loyalty and emotional support.

I'm just hoping, many other black Americans will rise in defense of me and my fellow gays. We NEED to be accepted and enjoy the same rights others have. Thanks to those who have supported us all along, it means so much.
TurtlePink · 22-25, F Best Comment
I'm just hoping, many other black Americans will rise in defense of me and my fellow gays. We NEED to be accepted and enjoy the same rights others have. Thanks to those who have supported us all along, it means so much.

I’m African and I proudly support lgbtq because I understand that love is love!! That’s all it is and it’s not complicated to get that. It’s not a disease its not an illness so people should stop treating it like it is.
@TurtlePink Thank you hon, you said it perfectly! (((HUGS)))

TrashCat · M
I am gay and have been out for a long time. I do not flaunt my orientation nor do I hide it. I am just me. It's rare that people actually say anything to me about it because I do not fit the stereotype. It's hilarious to me when people do find out and make comments like 'You don't act gay' or "I would have never known". Sheesh. I also have kids which confuses people. Being gay is not a choice and it sickens me when I do get into these types of conversations. I am honest in saying that I do not have a lot of black friends. From my personal experience, though, women of colour seem to be more tolerant and receptive. I like what you wrote. I'm slightly inebriated so I hope i'm making sense and not ranting. lol
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@TrashCat I have something I'd like to share. If I offend you or anyone please explain so I can understand because I'm always willing to learn.
I went to university as a ature student between 2018-2021 in the first few weeks of being there I was approached by a group of teens who decided to grill me. One of the things they asked me was about my hair but my main concern was my sexuality.
I told them that that wasn't of concern to them as I'm not here to date, I'm much older and secure in my relationship.
Anyways very quickly I was subjected to you must be straight! They're all like that, so stuck up. Ugh... Anyways one person went as far as to asking me "how do you know you're straight, if you've never been with a woman?"
So I said "how did you know you're gay??"
To which they replied they always liked men so I said exactly.
I was then subject to more 'pressure' where by I was told I was buying into a brainwashed mindset, that no one is straight and men are only for procreation but pleasure and love is found in a woman. So I had to leave the conversation. I later over heard some of these same people expressing a real dislike for the opposite sex but what I found quite interesting was all the females had very strong and masculine appearances and energy...
If you despise the opposite straight model so much why emulate it?
I've always heard there's a fine line between love and hate...
You may not be sexually attracted but there's some like ability of the opposite sex even if it's due to the power for example a man can have and in some instances the power of sexuality in a very feminine woman...
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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@TrashCat I'm very androgynous consequently I've been called a dyke and very few guys do approach me. But when I do go out I do wear dresses but my style has always been rather Conservative.
Anyways... Its not about the way a person dresses its more that every thing about them is masculine. They keep their nails short, if painted its not girlie colours. Hair cut short but in a very basic short back and sides cut like they did it themselves... Oversized jumpers crew neck, baggy trousers. But it's worn in such a way that the form isn't so obvious. One girl in particular said she preferred sports bras as they make her chest appear smaller. Very grungy with heavy boots like Dr Martins.
I'm not judging because I like that look. And have been known to dress similar occasionally. But I'm probably coming across like I'm trying...
The way they sit legs spread, hunched over in that leaning forward manner (very teen boy).
I'm from an era where girls were still told to close their legs even if they had trousers on and to consider their posture as a humped back causes trouble in old age.

These days anything goes, which in some instances is good where as others it's not.
The unfortunate part is that a lot of that has to do with religious brainwashing. Many people of color who identify as conservatives are very devout, and like many of the devout, are hypocritically so. Hershel Walker is a prime example.
@Grateful4you Personally, I just don’t think he’s sharp enough for that, but in his case mental illness is always a factor.
@bijouxbroussard I have only ever seen where he visited Trump and has (or had) some kind of relationship with the Kardashian woman, I saw where she says she thrives on chaos so it follows, she and Kanye both share profitable mal-adaptive mental deficits... kind of dysfunctional soul mates as it were.
@Grateful4you Kim finally got sick of him—which pretty much says it all.
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
Unfortunately this is a strong cultural and religious situation.
It's going to take a lot to break down these kind of mindsets. It may sound ignorant of me to say this but people like to act as if gay doesn't happen in these countries and it's only when they come further west and get their mind polluted by our slack ways...
I don't really know what it's like to be gay but I long for the day when people don't have to announce it or feel weird about coming out.
I recently read about Dominica Republic and some of their young boys
Now this is a genetic occurance.
So it's proof that all human conditions, issues gender, sexuality whatever starts somewhere at birth/conception/in the dna.
I've always believed that... Being with a woman isn't my preference but as others have said love is love. I do not force my will on others as I don't wish them to force theirs on mine.
@Mellowgirl Great item you shared. In all my years here and EP I never really felt the need to "announce" but that dreadful interview with those African leaders was so blatantly hateful I just couldn't stay quiet. I was raised by parents who would not tolerate such hateful racism or homophobia. Mom once told my sister, " You need to meet the nice boys like your brother" LOL
Mellowgirl · 31-35, F
@Grateful4you aww it's a shame those nice boys wouldn't want to play with her... 🤭
TurtlePink · 22-25, F
Yeah, it makes me ashamed how homophobic Africans are. They’re pretty damn blunt about it on Facebook too. Recently I saw a post on Facebook that said Africa was banning gay content in children movies. Upsetting seeing them cheer over it. That’s what really disgusting
justanothername · 51-55, M
Unfortunately white right wing Republicans are too narcissistic to see life any other way.
gdon39 · 46-50, M
Well that’s very unfortunate. Why do you think anti gay is on the rise in The United States?

I’m surprised to hear that. Please tell
@gdon39 I wasn't trying to personalize, I don't know you and I realize there are many MAGA folks who are part of the membership, thus, my disclaimer "You may not like...etc" Sorry if you thought I was trying to target you, you sound like one of the good guys. I will eat humble pie and apologise. Sorry I offended you.✌️🏽
@Grateful4you trump exposed the dirty underbelly of America and made them feel empowered to spew their venom.

Remember Trumpism is united by hate for the other
gdon39 · 46-50, M
@Grateful4you we are all good my friend. Perhaps I was a bit jumpy and could have been more patient witch is weird bc I can’t possibly imagine a more patient person than I.

Anyway my guess is you and I support humanity
TurtlePink · 22-25, F
But I understand your feelings. I get it.
There is some African countries that are lgbtq friendly like South Africa and Uganda
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@agetheweebeast I understand where you’re coming from now. Just wanted to make sure.
OggggO · 36-40, M
@agetheweebeast Looking over that website, it's like a who's who of racists in lab coats.
@agetheweebeast If everyone in the world saw things my way it would be a HUGE, perpetual musical in the tradition of the stage musical "HAIR" Timothy Leary and skies raining flowers. I certainly appreciate your efforts of enlightenment and reminder of my shallow, first world self -entitled whining.

 
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