Apparently, gay lives don't matter!

I was more than a little disheartened when I watched an interview of several highly intellectual leaders of several different African countries expressing their opinions of gay people,
A few sample comments from educated black men. "They are totally disgusting" " They are the antithesis of traditional family values, ( A frequent lie told in the USA) " We simply do not recognize them as part of our country's population" etc. etc.

Hatred of gays is on the rise in the USA especially by the so-called "Christian Nationalist" who want our rights to go the way of a woman choice.

I have heard a few blacks express they don't welcome "support" from guilt ridden liberal snowflakes", and similar other comments.

I may lean to the left and support social programs, I'm certainly not BLM out of guilt. It's the way I was brought up many decades ago. My mom and dad did not tolerate racism. PERIOD. I have ONE long time (Over a decade between SW and EP) black best friend here I know has my back with loyalty and emotional support.

I'm just hoping, many other black Americans will rise in defense of me and my fellow gays. We NEED to be accepted and enjoy the same rights others have. Thanks to those who have supported us all along, it means so much.

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TrashCat · M

I am gay and have been out for a long time. I do not flaunt my orientation nor do I hide it. I am just me. It's rare that people actually say anything to me about it because I do not fit the stereotype. It's hilarious to me when people do find out and make comments like 'You don't act gay' or "I would have never known". Sheesh. I also have kids which confuses people. Being gay is not a choice and it sickens me when I do get into these types of conversations. I am honest in saying that I do not have a lot of black friends. From my personal experience, though, women of colour seem to be more tolerant and receptive. I like what you wrote. I'm slightly inebriated so I hope i'm making sense and not ranting. lol

gdon39 · 46-50, M

@TrashCat I love the slightly inebriated message.

I read everything you wrote, we all know there are buffoons out there that are so simplistic and simply can’t see love for love sakes. I suppose they prefer angry whatever.

Growing up I was around queers and it never seemed off. My Jack ass father could have totally ruined me and this is what I mean. One day a black man and two beautiful little girls knocked on our door. Introduced themselves as our new neighbor and the new Pastor of our church.

My father was cordial until the door closed and then began to rant about the neighbors and new pastor. He didn’t ever have an appropriate word to say.

Long story but I’m 54 years old and have always thought love it love regardless whatever. I was a racist for a good deal of my upbringing and it took quality humans to break me of such awfulness.

Thank you for letting me rant but I’m proud of the human I am.

Grateful4you · M

@TrashCat Actually, you and I have a LOT in common. My sexuality doesn't define me. My dad was gay, as was another brother, so, there was NEVER an issue. It wasn't until my early 20's I learned much about homophobia.

My parents taught me early on that racism in our family is never tolerable. Thanks for stopping by bud.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@TrashCat I have something I'd like to share. If I offend you or anyone please explain so I can understand because I'm always willing to learn.
I went to university as a ature student between 2018-2021 in the first few weeks of being there I was approached by a group of teens who decided to grill me. One of the things they asked me was about my hair but my main concern was my sexuality.
I told them that that wasn't of concern to them as I'm not here to date, I'm much older and secure in my relationship.
Anyways very quickly I was subjected to you must be straight! They're all like that, so stuck up. Ugh... Anyways one person went as far as to asking me "how do you know you're straight, if you've never been with a woman?"
So I said "how did you know you're gay??"
To which they replied they always liked men so I said exactly.
I was then subject to more 'pressure' where by I was told I was buying into a brainwashed mindset, that no one is straight and men are only for procreation but pleasure and love is found in a woman. So I had to leave the conversation. I later over heard some of these same people expressing a real dislike for the opposite sex but what I found quite interesting was all the females had very strong and masculine appearances and energy...
If you despise the opposite straight model so much why emulate it?
I've always heard there's a fine line between love and hate...
You may not be sexually attracted but there's some like ability of the opposite sex even if it's due to the power for example a man can have and in some instances the power of sexuality in a very feminine woman...

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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@TrashCat I'm very androgynous consequently I've been called a dyke and very few guys do approach me. But when I do go out I do wear dresses but my style has always been rather Conservative.
Anyways... Its not about the way a person dresses its more that every thing about them is masculine. They keep their nails short, if painted its not girlie colours. Hair cut short but in a very basic short back and sides cut like they did it themselves... Oversized jumpers crew neck, baggy trousers. But it's worn in such a way that the form isn't so obvious. One girl in particular said she preferred sports bras as they make her chest appear smaller. Very grungy with heavy boots like Dr Martins.
I'm not judging because I like that look. And have been known to dress similar occasionally. But I'm probably coming across like I'm trying...
The way they sit legs spread, hunched over in that leaning forward manner (very teen boy).
I'm from an era where girls were still told to close their legs even if they had trousers on and to consider their posture as a humped back causes trouble in old age.

These days anything goes, which in some instances is good where as others it's not.