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Happiness is a choice.

It’s very often in life that solutions are actually quite simple. We will a hear a truth in a very clear and concise way. The problem is that we don’t accept these truths because they’re not what we need to hear at the time. The most infamous example being, “Happiness is a choice”. Now regardless of how true this statement may or may not be, the fact remains that for some? It is truth. For others? Not so much.

Here’s the thing. It is true…ish. Okay. That’s a big ish. Allow me to explain, as people we overcomplicate everything to the point we can’t appreciate any answers anymore because we don’t understand the terribly elaborate equation to get there. What is an answer, a destination, or any achievement without knowing each of the individual steps taken on the journey to get there? It’s nothing really. Meaningless. This explains how we can have all the answers to our struggles in life, without any way to realize them. I mean you always heard it from teach in school. Show your work!

For this reason I would implore each of you to see that just because something may be beyond you right now, don’t dismiss it as a falsehood. As I write this, each of you are taking your own journey with near endless opportunities and potential, but every time you decide something just isn’t possible based on your current perspective, you close off so many paths you could’ve taken. Especially the ones that could lead to happiness being a choice.

Now asking someone to keep an open mind is something of a cliche. I’m sure you’ve all heard that before a million times, but this only demonstrates the timelessness of this wisdom. Life is not that end result we all pursue. It’s the choices we make here and now. Instead of the decidedly unsatisfactory answer of “Happiness is a choice”, I would rather say, “The choice is happiness”. Like all of you, I too am on a journey. One that will only end with my last breath and rather than deciding on what happiness is, I think it’s best to decide on happiness.

It might not make perfect sense right now. It’s not supposed to. I’m still in the middle of solving this equation myself and you know something else? I always will be. Every answer is some theoretical future yet to come that changes with our knowledge. Every judgment we conclude is restricted to that past moment in time as what has already been. Here and now though? That’s as real as it gets. No, I’m not telling you what happiness is. I’m trying to say it’s not something that we can define. Like everything else in this world, it just is… the moment we stop determining what it should be.
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being · 36-40, F
Beautiful text my dear, it was nice to read it first thing in my morning 🌻
I've been through a lot of ups and downs even if most of them within me and this text is smoothening the corners. 🌹
Some situations make it easier for people to be happy than others.. and also attitudes .. it's entirely a choice but one's choices have an effect .. in the end
Reject · 26-30, M
@SStarfish This can be very true! However, it’s also worth noting that simply because a situation may be pleasing for a short time as it makes our lives easier. Perhaps from fortune of some kind, that doesn’t necessarily constitute real happiness. If it did, then people would see it as a temporary thing which is the reality most believe in. I personally don’t like to think this way because it only means my happiness isn’t up to me and it’s something that can be taken away. I like to think that it is in the harder parts of life that love and therefore happiness deepens.
@Reject i think you and @XcookiexbakerX use a different part of your brains than i do 😬😏
Musicman · 61-69, MVIP
You are completely right. We can't control life. If you are waiting on the government, your boss, coworkers, friends or a spouse to always make you happy you are in trouble. We simply can't control any of those people. The only thing we can control is ourselves and our thinking. Once we stop waiting for everyone else to make us happy and realize that just by changing our own thinking we can actually be happy. The last few months my wife and I have gone through some pretty hard times. Have I always been happy? No. Some days I have been down, but it was never for long. Change your thinking and have a better day.
Reject · 26-30, M
@Musicman It’s good to see like minds my friend! 🙂‍↕ I agree. I always like to say, “Any thinking you have that is independent of the world is true to yourself”.
Musicman · 61-69, MVIP
@Reject We are the only thing we have absolute control over.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
That may be easier said when a person doesn’t have chaos coming at them from several different directions all at once.
Reject · 26-30, M
@cherokeepatti I know this argument. “If you only knew my pain! You couldn’t say such things! It’s easy to be grateful when life gives you thing all these fortunes you benefit from! If you had to endure chaos, you wouldn’t preach of peace.” …Right?

Surely you must understand that there isn’t a single soul who lives and is spared from suffering. Everyone has their own story with much tragedy in it. Even worse, there will never be anyone else who will truly understand your personal agonies more than you yourself. You can compare things and believe some have it better or worse, but that doesn’t change how the most painful thing you will ever know will always be whatever you have the most perspective on and this is the curse of every human being. Despite all this, many can still find happiness of their own.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
@Reject You know something? I have had several very long periods of my life when 3 different things hit me all at once. I don’t know how I stayed sane going through all that. Some people break down when it’s only one thing. So don’t preach to me. I did the best I could with what I had at the time.
Reject · 26-30, M
@cherokeepatti You and everyone else. Alright. I won’t preach. Best of luck to you.
Reason10 · 70-79, M
Happiness IS a choice.
KiwiBird · 36-40, F
Life is all about CHOICE.
Nothing more
Nothing less
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