Happiness is a choice.

You ever wonder why so many people disagree with this? It’s because it’s not one. At least not at first. You have to lie to yourself for a very long time before those lies start to become truths, but in doing so, you’ll discover the power of choice.

A true choice is not taken on a whim. It’s a commitment. Anything else is false. If you’ve committed to your sadness, don’t expect your whim for happiness to work.

I don’t approach a body builder who’s made that true choice for his lifestyle and expect to lift as much as him just because I chose to at that moment. So why would I look at his accomplishment and tell him it’s not a choice? One he so clearly made.

If you’re depressed, you’re the bodybuilder of sadness. So I wouldn’t expect you to have any clue on how to be happy. Guess what? It’s just as hard as being miserable because just like anything you give yourself to, it’s a commitment. It’s not easy.

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Wiseacre · F

Clinical depression is not a choice...therefore happiness is not s choice. It’s in the genes or epigenes.

Reject · 26-30, M

@Wiseacre That’s what I was always told after I got diagnosed with clinical depression in psyche wards. I’m glad I don’t believe it anymore.

Wiseacre · F

Based on science..@Reject

Reject · 26-30, M

@Wiseacre Science has been proven wrong many times. Evidence is never absolute.

Busybee333 · 31-35, F

@Wiseacre Most.. have lost connection with themselves and have difficulty loving themselves because all they faced was coldness OR a chronic chemical disbalance in the brain (which actually may be reversible in some cases). Surprisingly, most severe depression cases are HEALABLE through the right therapy. By that I don't mean becoming med-dependent. I mean trying without meds but if it is absolutely necessary - combining temporary meds with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or any other therapy that shows results (every person reacts differently to specific therapies). Music/Occupational/Recreational/Speech/Art/Sport/ Therapy, you name it - we have the tools to make it happen - we just need to make sure the right people are allowed to treat those in need because most people who never heal.. it is because we did not look out the box for possible other solutions - psychology is fairly fresh field - so much more to learn and discover.. I can't wait for the day Psychology to be come one of the central components in treating physical health as well. Sometimes the depression comes from some physical ailment that you may not even know you have.. make sure you keep a check on yourself just in case.

Wiseacre · F

There may be many different reason why ppl lose touch with themselves. Technology is a big part of it. It’s complicated.@Busybee333