Happiness is a choice.

You ever wonder why so many people disagree with this? It’s because it’s not one. At least not at first. You have to lie to yourself for a very long time before those lies start to become truths, but in doing so, you’ll discover the power of choice.

A true choice is not taken on a whim. It’s a commitment. Anything else is false. If you’ve committed to your sadness, don’t expect your whim for happiness to work.

I don’t approach a body builder who’s made that true choice for his lifestyle and expect to lift as much as him just because I chose to at that moment. So why would I look at his accomplishment and tell him it’s not a choice? One he so clearly made.

If you’re depressed, you’re the bodybuilder of sadness. So I wouldn’t expect you to have any clue on how to be happy. Guess what? It’s just as hard as being miserable because just like anything you give yourself to, it’s a commitment. It’s not easy.

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CookieCrumbs · F

I get what you’re saying about choosing a certain path - happiness. The more you choose it, the more you commit to it, the more it becomes who you are.

On the other extreme, if one chooses to be sad , or find sadness and misery in every aspect of their lives, the get swallowed in this pattern of thinking nothing is going right… that nothing is worth being happy about.

BUT life does not happen as the end result of these 2 choices. There should be considerations for people’s emotional makeup, mental health, devastating life circumstances that are difficult to recover from.

Happiness (or sadness) might be seen by people as a choice. But it is not made by the flick of switch. It doesn’t come that easy.

Reject · 26-30, M

@CookieCrumbs Yes, those mental patterns are things people often don’t realize. There’s always going to be a million things happening to you no matter who you are. Rich people in first world countries still struggle like the poor in third world ones. Just for different reasons. The brain adapts and will always find something to complain about, unless you train it otherwise. I’m not saying it’s a flick of switch because again, whims don’t count. You don’t get that switch just wanting it one day.