Happiness is a choice.

You ever wonder why so many people disagree with this? It’s because it’s not one. At least not at first. You have to lie to yourself for a very long time before those lies start to become truths, but in doing so, you’ll discover the power of choice.

A true choice is not taken on a whim. It’s a commitment. Anything else is false. If you’ve committed to your sadness, don’t expect your whim for happiness to work.

I don’t approach a body builder who’s made that true choice for his lifestyle and expect to lift as much as him just because I chose to at that moment. So why would I look at his accomplishment and tell him it’s not a choice? One he so clearly made.

If you’re depressed, you’re the bodybuilder of sadness. So I wouldn’t expect you to have any clue on how to be happy. Guess what? It’s just as hard as being miserable because just like anything you give yourself to, it’s a commitment. It’s not easy.

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AwakeningConfession221122

This is coming from someone who has gone through 38 of his 39 years in some situations not many would come out of in one piece mentally or physically but I survived, and I don’t know how I finally learned my subtle are of not giving a flying shit but finally figured it out.

Not caring about what other people think of me or what I stand for.
If I cared that much I would try so hard to be someone Im not or a “yes man” just to fit in with the flock or………..I couldn’t be fucked getting out of bed in the morning.

I’ve had haters in my life, why? Because I stood up for something I believed in, someone I believed in or standing my ground.
One or two of those haters tried to take me down and failed. Better luck next time 🤣😂😂.

And that’s the attitude of someone not giving a fuck, and I am who I am without any need to impress or please anyone against my will.

Reject · 26-30, M

@AwakeningConfession221122 Hey, I can respect that. If not caring what people think is the happiness you can make for yourself then that’s what matters. I’m often a very similar way. People pleasing in any situation that isn’t your job is tricky because more times than not, it just makes things worse for you both. At least your way leaves you feeling good.

AwakeningConfession221122

@Reject I have to admit. It’s a lesson that can potentially take a whole live time to learn.

Reject · 26-30, M

@AwakeningConfession221122 It definitely can. I have a lot of admiration though for anyone who went through something serious and found a way to survive without needing anyone else. That to me is the point of life.