Happiness is a choice.

You ever wonder why so many people disagree with this? It’s because it’s not one. At least not at first. You have to lie to yourself for a very long time before those lies start to become truths, but in doing so, you’ll discover the power of choice.

A true choice is not taken on a whim. It’s a commitment. Anything else is false. If you’ve committed to your sadness, don’t expect your whim for happiness to work.

I don’t approach a body builder who’s made that true choice for his lifestyle and expect to lift as much as him just because I chose to at that moment. So why would I look at his accomplishment and tell him it’s not a choice? One he so clearly made.

If you’re depressed, you’re the bodybuilder of sadness. So I wouldn’t expect you to have any clue on how to be happy. Guess what? It’s just as hard as being miserable because just like anything you give yourself to, it’s a commitment. It’s not easy.

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Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

Then everyone would choose it.
If depressed our brains are broken and we are not building sadness ,we are missing dopamine and serotonin.
Even meds have a hard time balancing it all out.
Committed to sadness ?not correct! we do anything to feel happy , but our brains don't let us.
Committed to misery? Not correct ...we are not always miserable and often retreat so not to make others miserable.
I am happy often so yes, I know what happy is.

Reject · 31-35, M

@Justmeraeagain The brain is like a muscle. If you don’t work it, it’s going to be weak. You are committing to and building upon that weakness every single time you refuse to be active because you will develop many more problems with that inactive lifestyle. Depression being the obvious example. Of course your brain wont let you be happy if you’re not doing anything to make it happy. Don’t say you do anything to feel happy if you’re still finding excuses to not be.

Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

@Reject yeah yeah I've heard it all before.... Kick people when they're down ,make assumptions, have fun, I'm done

Reject · 31-35, M

@Justmeraeagain Alright. Don’t let me keep you! I’ll have my fun, that’s for sure.

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Reject · 31-35, M

@OogieBoogie Thanks Oogie! You’re more diplomatic than me. That is what I was saying. I can be insensitive or careless when I explain that because when I run into someone else’s demon, it’s not my job to tell it it’s wrong. It’s up to it’s owner. So if they wish to let it rule them, then I can’t stop that. I’ll leave them be.

OogieBoogie · F

@Reject i get that . And everyone has their own path they travel.

I also get that some are not able to do what youre suggesting.
Sometimes life is very cruel.