Happiness is a choice.

You ever wonder why so many people disagree with this? It’s because it’s not one. At least not at first. You have to lie to yourself for a very long time before those lies start to become truths, but in doing so, you’ll discover the power of choice.

A true choice is not taken on a whim. It’s a commitment. Anything else is false. If you’ve committed to your sadness, don’t expect your whim for happiness to work.

I don’t approach a body builder who’s made that true choice for his lifestyle and expect to lift as much as him just because I chose to at that moment. So why would I look at his accomplishment and tell him it’s not a choice? One he so clearly made.

If you’re depressed, you’re the bodybuilder of sadness. So I wouldn’t expect you to have any clue on how to be happy. Guess what? It’s just as hard as being miserable because just like anything you give yourself to, it’s a commitment. It’s not easy.

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kimmy159 · F

I would rather call it a choice to persue and focus on happiness ^^

Reject · 26-30, M

@kimmy159 That works too! That is more accurate actually to the initial power we all have in this. The choice to literal happiness doesn’t come until much later.

kimmy159 · F

@Reject From my personal view, I don’t believe you can literally choose to be or become happy.
For example, I went through a serious depression, I would even call it ‘existential crisis’, which lasted for about 5 years.
During that time, I never had the idea or even the slightest impression I could just choose to be happy. What I did do was, waking up every day and chosing to chase happiness or trying to do things that made me feel happy.
It only got better when I finally had the chance to re-focus my entire life on something (or I should say someone) else; my child. As soon as he was born, I felt like I was no longer the main star of my entire being, it automatically solved my problem of lacking purpose.
Afterwards, I felt like I was too focused on trying to ‘create’ some form of hapiness. In reality, it just had to ‘overcome’ me. If that makes any sense xD

Reject · 26-30, M

@kimmy159 That makes sense. The body builder can’t jump straight to deadlifting 500 pounds. He must start with smaller amounts. You better believe though that once he gets up there, he can lift that 500 by mere choice. Before that though? It would have been impossible. He overcame impossible because he found something he wanted to commit to. You did the same thing. So personally, I don’t think it’s impossible to choose happiness. It just take lot of work to get there.