I Am Trying to Find Happiness

I'm really struggling to be happy lately, I feel like nobody ever values me. Not my parents or anyone all I'm getting is complaint, people telling me I'm not doing this right or thir, being naive, not putting efforts in, being unworthy and comments on how I look, too skinny, too that or this. I'm really tired, and all I want is to have my confidence back.

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4meAndyou · F

Yes, that's called toxic parenting. Constructive criticism is something that helps you and is delivered with love, and it is usually balanced by telling you something positive about yourself, to build you up, and is followed by a hug.

As the daughter of a toxic mother, I really do sympathize. Recognizing that your parents are narcissistic is the first step toward standing strong in your own place, ignoring the awful things that are said to you, and going forward in life with the things that make YOU happy.

QueenPeach · 26-30, F

@4meAndyou how do I make the first move to move forward?

4meAndyou · F

@QueenPeach I believe that you need to do a little research. Find out what a narcissist is. Understanding other people and why they do the awful things they sometimes do is the first step toward being able to ignore the hurtful things they do and say.

Once you have reached a level of understanding, you can move forward again by distancing yourself from the people who are toxic toward you. I remember that it was a revelation to me, after I was married, that I was "allowed" to let all calls from my mother go to voice mail.