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If this makes folks mad, sorry. It’s been bugging me since there was a conversation about it…

Someone wanted to know why, since some black people use the "n-word", everyone can’t without being identified as a racist. The short answer is easy: racists are still using it.

But I don’t understand why anyone who isn’t black and doesn’t see him or herself as a racist would want to use a word with such an ugly history attached to it ?

As to why some black people use it among themselves (I don’t), I know the reasoning. I don’t agree with it, but I know what it is: supposedly using the word takes the "power" out of it. Newsflash: it doesn’t. And that’s why the popular wisdom is, you can’t use it if you’ve never been called it (in a disparaging way) yourself.

Personally, I hate the word, and I wish everyone would delete it from their vocabularies. It will never mean what some people want to make it mean—not any form of it.
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I hate the word and never use it.

I can't help but think some black people try to take the word back in attempt to weaponize it against whites. Like, I remember what you did! But, what they are doing is retraumatizing themselves and also allowing others to think it's OK to use it (They don't have a problem with it so I'll continue to say it). 😕

I don't think it's healthy and I don't think it's moving us in the right direction.

I don't know another race or nationality who uses disparaging words to represent themselves?
@whippersnapper And that’s a good point. No other racial or ethnic group does. Personally, I think it’s self-defeating.
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@whippersnapper Do you remember when Chris Rock tried to normalize the use of the word by wearing a shirt with it on it?
@LordShadowfire That at least, he backed off of. He’s still known for his routine about "the difference between black people and n******”. The word is still problematic.
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Ugh, Chris Rock. We share the same birthday and the same inclination to "push the envelop" off a cliff 😆 He did state in a 60 Minutes interview (2005) that he was done with that routine because he felt it gave racist a license to use it. I hope so. It is very problematic and it gives mixed signals to some individuals.
@whippersnapper I’m glad he came to realise that. Because that is a big part of the problem. In the conversation I observed, the person kept insisting that if it was really a "big deal" , black people wouldn’t use it.
Alas, not all of us use the term. And even those who do, usually don’t see it as "common usage" term. It would become a very "big deal" quickly, and I’ve seen people find it out the hard way. 🙁