Should teachers and schools be allowed to keep information about a student's pronouns or gender identity from parents?

Poll - Total Votes: 33

Yes. The child's health and well being are more important than the parent being informed.

No. Parents should get to know this information even if that puts some kids at risk.

You can only vote on one answer.

Personally I think that right now it is for a child's safety that their choice of pronouns or expressed gender identity not be relayed to the parents.
Why?
Because if the child wanted their parents to know then they would tell them. The child might not feel comfortable telling their parent just because it's awkward but it could also be a much more substantial fear of repercussions, punishment or even harm.

You have only to see how some people in this debate advocate hate and even execution to understand why it is worrying to out a trans child to certain kinds of parent.

It's just so gross how this issue has been weaponized by the political right to get cheap votes.
Just following the ol playbook "If you don't have policy, target a minority" lol

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iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

Children need to be protected so the parents don’t need to be informed.

gol979 · 41-45, M

@iamonfire696 isnt that a red flag? "Dont tell your parents....."

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@gol979 The child will tell their parents if they fell supported at hone. There is no reason for the school to tell the parent.

I am supportive of my children so they would tell me.

Pikachu

@gol979

This isn't "don't tell your parents". This is about not telling the parents something the child didn't tell their parents but did tell their teachers or classmates.

gol979 · 41-45, M

@Pikachu eh? "This isnt dont tell your parents. This about not telling the parents......"

Pikachu

@gol979

Yes exactly.
This is not a teacher telling a student "don't tell your parents" this is about teachers not telling on children to their parents.

Do you understand the distinction?

gol979 · 41-45, M

@Pikachu so teachers can hide information to parents about their child? Sounds like a red flag and creepy af if you ask me. I would be apoplectic if anyone looking after my child hid details like this from me

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@gol979 You must don’t get it do you? You don’t understand that there are people that are against trans people, like you because you are.

There are people who would go as far as beating or punishing their kids to beat the gay/trans out of them. There are people who would throw their child on the street so just stop with that BS.

gol979 · 41-45, M

@iamonfire696 just because there are garbage parents out there (miniscule amount) it doesnt give the carer of a child the right to encourage a certain behaviour (in this instance that a child can change their gender, not some menial fact about a date or a math formula) then not tell the parents about it. Its wrong on many levels.

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@gol979 Are you that daft? There’s no excuse for it but it does happen. If the child feels comfortable they will tell their parents.

If my children has these feelings they would tell me because I am loving, accepting and supportive. I would help them navigate what’s going on.

I wouldn’t rage and beat them or throw them out. Stop pretending like this doesn’t happen in conservative families.

If your child came to you and had these feelings what would you do? Honestly

gol979 · 41-45, M

@iamonfire696 i would disagree with those view points and strongly urge my child not to get any plastic surgery. But as they are my child and im their parent any decisions about surgery will not be permitted until they are an adult. My child can think how they want to, i dont own their thoughts.

Anyway, this isnt about me. This is about someone who is "caring" for a child at the permission of the parents, hiding conversations about gender with said child, a child for goodness sake, and hiding this from their parents. Its that simple. As stated previously its unethical on many levels and to be quite frank its very creepy

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@gol979 I guess you are for children getting beaten, got it.