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bugeye · 26-30, F
i think every couple need to have this discussion. do they want kids. if so when do they want kids. if you're in synch with your partner and know where they stand on the matter and make a joint decision it's all the better.
while i think guys should help raise there kids, accidental or not no it shouldn't be forced on them. some people use there kids like a meal ticket and i think that's horrible.
while i think guys should help raise there kids, accidental or not no it shouldn't be forced on them. some people use there kids like a meal ticket and i think that's horrible.
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@Pikachu sadly some women are forced to raise kids they don't want.. not everyone can access or feels able to access abortions
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@bugeye ok we shouldn't forget that actually in the process of carrying a child and giving birth there are a whole and massive bunch of feelings.. it's not like giving away a bag of sugar.. emotions are involved and indeed the human body/physiology is designed that way..
There's actually a reason babies are relatively rarely given up for adoption willingly nowdays.. in the past the stigma and the expectation was that unmarried mothers give their baby up for adoption.. it caused a lot of trauma for both the child and the mother... Society changed and now very few mothers are faced with that absolutely awful heart-wrenching decision to have to give their baby away.. The truth is .. even the least maternal woman would be emotionally scarred at having to give the child they carried and gave birth to away.. The process of giving birth and carrying a baby is not without danger either.. so it's not like those are easy options.
There's actually a reason babies are relatively rarely given up for adoption willingly nowdays.. in the past the stigma and the expectation was that unmarried mothers give their baby up for adoption.. it caused a lot of trauma for both the child and the mother... Society changed and now very few mothers are faced with that absolutely awful heart-wrenching decision to have to give their baby away.. The truth is .. even the least maternal woman would be emotionally scarred at having to give the child they carried and gave birth to away.. The process of giving birth and carrying a baby is not without danger either.. so it's not like those are easy options.
bugeye · 26-30, F
@Adaydreambeliever no there not easy choices but that's my point. it's still a choice.
@Pikachu i think he should take responsibility. i just think either everyone get's to choose or nobody does.
if abortions or willing adoptions were outlawed then by all means force him to take on the huge financial burden.
@Pikachu i think he should take responsibility. i just think either everyone get's to choose or nobody does.
if abortions or willing adoptions were outlawed then by all means force him to take on the huge financial burden.
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
@bugeye sometimes the choice is so hard that there realistically is no choice.. Life experience many times over teaches us that..
bugeye · 26-30, F
@Pikachu it could depending on the income or circumstances. but it's true it's not as expansive. but it does seem to me the fairer option. i mean u said it yourself in the original question "Women have all the control when it comes to becoming a parent." that doesn't seem fair to me.