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I don't want to admit it, but I have to surrender Tommy

They can give him proper training, it's a no-kill shelter.

Unfortunately, he bit me again and now I am so scared of him, and can't get his muzzle on him.

Everything seemed to be going great, but then he started getting possessive over ME.

When people come up to say hi, he attacks me and grabs my arm, latching on and doesn't let go. It is terrifying because he weighs nearly as much as I do.

It really sucks, I feel guilty, like I failed, but I hope I can get him to a place that can help him work through his troubles.
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OldBrit · 61-69, M
You've not failed. You're making the best decision for his welfare and yours
caccoon · 36-40
@OldBrit thank you, I have never surrendered an animal before, but it really is out of my wheelhouse and I can't lose an arm
RebelRaven · 51-55, F
@OldBrit @caccoon exactly! 🫂
JRVanguard · 26-30, M
You did everything you could
You’re doing the right thing, you can’t keep a dog that keeps biting you
And you got him away from his previous situation
caccoon · 36-40
@JRVanguard @Mindful I agree, I just hope everything works out for him. They have a few other dogs just like Tommy so hopefully theyll know how to help him.

I can't stop crying while also feeling terrified that he is still in my home haha.

It's like the same feeling I had when living with an abusive man, even though I know it's not his fault
Mindful · 56-60, F
@caccoon that sounds really rough! But I'm glad you're getting/seeking/sought help in both situations.
caccoon · 36-40
@Mindful yes, I'm hoping the shelter will get back to me soon so we both can be safe
CountScrofula · 46-50, M
Fuck I'm so sorry. You really tried.
You did not fail ! Safety is the most important thing ...you tried and that's all anyone can do ! You are doing the right thing .
caccoon · 36-40
@Chern0bylplaygr0unds I hope they're able to take him soon so he can be on the road to recovery 💙
I can understand why you feel the way you do but in all honesty I’m very relieved to hear this.
DearAmbellina2113 · 46-50, F
I'm so sorry. You gave it your best, and it looks like Tommy just isn't the right fit for you. Maybe they can rehabilitate him and place him with a family that is used to dogs that had difficult pasts. 🫂 Don't beat yourself up, you're doing what's best for both of you.
caccoon · 36-40
@DearAmbellina2113 thank you girl, I really appreciate this. And yes I just don't have enough experience with his breed and I think I am not dominant enough with dogs. I think he doesn't see me as the "leader", but more like a posession
DearAmbellina2113 · 46-50, F
@caccoon you're spot on.
Aww you did what you could. Your safety has to come first.
PinkMoon · 26-30, F
You didn't fail,this was beyond your control.
caPnAhab · 26-30, M
That's the news I never wanted to hear. If you couldn't keep Tommy, at least you could play a role in his life by getting him out of that abusive house. Keep yourself, Lucy and all the pigeons safe
caccoon · 36-40
@caPnAhab yeah it's heartbreaking, but I hope he can get the guidance he needs 💙 I'm just not the right person for the job
caPnAhab · 26-30, M
@caccoon it was a noble effort though
Nanori · F
you didn't fail him, you did everything you could and everything you knew you must
what he needs is beyond your expertise, nothing to feel guilty about you just gotta accept it : )
Mindful · 56-60, F
@Nanori I agree with this too.
caccoon · 36-40
@Nanori @Mindful Thank you guys, it's true I know, I just hate that I can't help.

But he has a lot of good in him and I hope someone can
Dan193 · 31-35, M
Maybe you can give it to a farm, like post on market place or something.
caccoon · 36-40
@Dan193 I think he needs someone who has a lot of experience with dogs like this and I don't want to be responsible for someone getting bitten
Straylight · F
The guy who raised him failed. There was only so much you could do.
Every decision you’ve made has been to make his life better. You have nothing to feel guilty for.
caccoon · 36-40
@Straylight thank you for this, I hope I will believe it eventually 💙

 
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