Dog stresses

We have a 1 year old pug. He is EXTREMELY hyper and impulsive and being around him is like being around a super-fast 2 year old that never stops grabbing things, chasing things, biting things, just never stops moving. It is very overwhelming for me and I honestly do not feel like he was a good match for me or my husband at all. We are both very low energy, mellow people. We specifically got a pug because they are supposed to be snuggly couch potatoes. We got a wolverine on crack.

I struggle with depression amidst other things and my husband works all day. It is HARD for me to get him out of his crate and deal with him all on my own and I get overwhelmed by him very easily. So he spends most of the day in his crate which only makes his energy issue worse. Don't get me wrong he has made immense progress since we got him, you couldnt even pet him intially or hold him without him biting you and going insane, and he used to be so out of control with other dogs (none of it aggression just over excitement) and now he is pretty well mannered around them. But this is the first dog I have ever had that has been this difficult and I don't know what to do. For a brief moment in time we could afford to send him to daycare and that really made a difference in him-but we can't usually afford daycare or a dogwalker or anything like that.

I feel awful about the situation. He gets to spend maybe a few hours outside of his crate every day, a bit longer on the weekends when my husband is home to help. In his crate is the only time when he is calm and still and we don't have to keeo a constant eye on him to make sure he isn't eating some inanimate object or chasing a cat or tearing up a pen or what have you. And I have raised puppies before and know they get into occasional antics but he just DOESN'T ever stop. I have always been a firm believer in once you adopt an animal they are your responsibility for life, but I am worried he is too much of a challenge for us or just really not a good fit and he doesn't have that great of a life because of it. My heart breaks thinking of "giving up on him" and giving him to someone else but I just dont think he has a very good life with us. I don't know what to do. If we could just afford daycare regularly it wouldnt be an issue.

Does anyone have any advice? Please no hate or judgement, I know it is bad how much he is in his crate, we don't do it to be mean or neglectful intentionally we are just very overwhelmed and don't know what else to do.