Jealous cat.

I have a bit of an issue… I’ve had my cat Ivan for about four years now and we have a really strong connection. He’s the friendliest cat ever. Not once scratches a piece of furniture and always uses the litter box. Literally the best cat I could ever ask for.
However I’m in a new relationship now and for the first year everything was fine. But my partner and I decided to move in together and everything changed. When I’m not home my partner and Ivan get along great. Cuddling, belly rubs and lots of playing. But when I’m home he’s a completely different cat. He’s runs away and hides whenever my partner gets up and walks around. There are times where we thought he got out and ran away because we couldn’t find him. He’s has even bitten/ scratched my partner to the point where we had to take him to the hospital as cat injuries in general can be very dangerous. (Always go to the hospital if a cat draws blood) When I’m home alone with him he’s stuck to me like glue. I know for a fact it’s jealousy but the thing is it’s not like I give him any less attention. I can tell he’s doing it for attention because on the beginning I would coddle him and defend him thinking it was my partners fault. Since I figured it out I’ve stopped coddling him but he still acts different when we’re both around.

Does anyone know how to help me?

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4meAndyou · F

It might actually be aggression, re: the biting and scratching.

Running away and hiding is different. Your cat will run away from you if it’s sick or injured. That’s because cats prefer to hide away to protect themselves from potential danger. Stressed or scared cats also run away, as do cats who haven’t been socialized to be around humans. Sometimes, cats need their own space.

You might want to put out a nanny cam, secretly, to make sure your partner is not playing rough with the cat. And give the cat a very high cat tree with a hidey hole so he can get away if he needs to.

https://www.petassure.com/new-newsletters/understanding-cat-biting-and-scratching/

HiroSB · 26-30, M

@4meAndyou thank you for the advice. I do actually have cameras set up for when neither of us are home but I don’t want to be that person that spies on their partner lol like I originally said he is a very friendly cat with everyone but my partner. And he has a whole house to go to, his favourite spot is under the bed. And I have two cat trees with houses attached. One upstairs and one downstairs. I’m just baffled because it’s only when we’re together. He’s a healthy cat. Just doesn’t like it when we’re together.