I Like To Flirt But I Am Shy

I noticed I shut down when I'm with handsome/interesting men, and I don't WANT to shut down, it frustrates me. On internet....no problem. But in real life, when I meet a guy and he comes to close (literally and/or figurative) I get shy and can't say a word anymore.

I did have a bad relationship, my ex was manipulative and a cheat but I thought I was over it already and ready to move on. I don't know if it has something to do with him but could be.

I really want to move on, I don't want to shut down all the time....Normally I am fun and social, like to laugh and tell funny, crazy stories. I want to show them I am not always like this....Want to show the real me but can't....What do I do? Any experience with this anyone? Advice?

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persistentone22 · M

@kellybear, what you are doing is programming yourself mentally to fail. You are saying "I cannot block out" which actually means "I AM going to block out, and *please* do not let that happen." Who are you asking for the favor? You control your destiny.

What you need to practice saying instead is "I will not block out". YOU are the actor. You are stating as a plain fact that you will be brave. If you say that 20 times you will brainwash yourself and it will make you braver.