I Am Shy

One time a person told me the following:
"Wow! This is the first time I've met someone as shy as you!"
It pissed me off...🙄

I talked to my cousin about it and she didn't understand why someone pointing out my shyness made me feel like that.

How do you feel when someone points out your shyness??

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Fernie · F

you need to come up with a good comeback to that kind of remark instead of being pissed off and carrying it around with you...'wow, sooo, you haven't met many people then"....don't give them your power

Danez · M

@Fernie or something like "I was always taught that if you don't have something nice to say then you shouldn't say anything at all! ...So uhmmm get the picture?"

Fernie · F

@Danez I'm not sure the person who said it meant to be rude or hurtful...maybe just oblivious. It's definitely a teachable moment though

Siebje · F

@Fernie you're right about that! At that moment I was thinking it to be unlikely.. I had really been trying to talk more but then that person said that😅

Fernie · F

@Siebje you must not give up your personal power to some stranger..or even someone you know because of something they said...they are uninformed...again, it's a chance to teach them something. Your shyness is not a fault

Siebje · F

@Fernie I did let them know I didn't like it.
I just can't help how it makes me feel, that's what I need to work on I guess.
But it was also the way that person said it! 🙄

Fernie · F

@Siebje you most certainly CAN help how you feel about it...you're self conscious about being shy and when someone speaks about it you feel wrong and bad which is outrageous. There is nothing wrong with shyness. As you get older you will change and be less shy. Right now you act like it's a horrible thing and therefore you feel hurt when it is mentioned. That is up to you to work on being who you are and fek everyone else and how they feel about it...tell them you are fine being shy...at least you are not hurtful and ignorant like them. Defend yourself girl!!! Shy does NOT mean weak

Siebje · F

@Fernie but if I didn't care about others and how to feel about it, then I wouldn't be shy in the first place...

And when I'm shy, it's to such an extent that my mind goes blank and I don't even know how I normally act, what I would normally say. This while I actually want to interact!
So to me it actually is a 'horrible' thing, I really don't like it.

(Sometimes I'm quiet because I want to. In that case I don't care. I feel comfortable being quiet.)

Fernie · F

@Siebje insecurity creates shyness. We all have to work on our insecurities. So do you.

Danez · M

@Siebje Siebje, it doesn't sound like it's a matter of weakness as much as it is social interaction thing for you. I think you'll find that in time you'll learn how to better deal with different people and various social situations to where the shyness won't feel as much of a burden to you. You'll learn what to say or how to react to people that call out your shyness. To me I think it's a cute attribute for a woman to have - being shy, coy, or demure is what many men find to be an attractive attribute for those that take the time to see you for who you are.