What makes a person selfish?

@Reject i too think same... i saw people be selfish when they are not happy with their life, maybe pain makes people selfish?

@sahi81 Pain doesn’t make people selfish. There are examples of selfless people who suffer a lot of pain. I think it’s a lack of love.

@Reject u mean self-hatred or lack of self-love makes people selfish?

@sahi81 Yes, I think so.

@Reject i seen people who are over-critical towards their own looks never get any girl/woman show attention to them , maybe they come across as insecure /not being comfortable with themselves and make others also feel insecure/bad of themselves by judging others looks harshly too (intentionally and unintentionally)

@sahi81 Sure, that can happen, and that insecurity will make them act in selfish ways.

@Reject That might be true sometimes. But in my experience the most selfish people tend to be those who have the most, want more, and can't be bothered to think about others.

@MartinII It might look like they have the most. Same as how you’d think all rich people are happy. That’s not always the case though.

@MartinII i have seen few men around me who have pretty wives, still get jealous of any type attention i get from men ( even negative sexual type attention, for example : cat calling.) . They get excited and show attraction towards me (🤮) if i show them negative attention (anger) when they provoke fights with me intentionally out of jealousy.

I personally never got positive attention from men in my life. Lol maybe their wives don't show them any attention or not going good with their wife, married them only for money ( they are little rich). They couldn't get any girl/women's attention except negative attention in their lives even if they have everything, i think in their young age too no girl/women showed them attention ( could be due to culture or some other reason), maybe even their own wife never showed them attention. These same men try to suppress female sexuality and romantic feelings ( out of their own distrust and insecurities ) ! They try to suppress me too ( can't see me happy or have any freedom or grow in life despite me being average looking and average wealth)! They are very insecure of themselves and go to prostitutes just to show off and brag to other males.

All of those men are very insecure of themselves!

I believe bad people do get their karma even if they only show off their good things in life on outside.