Not sure what I did wrong.....
I rent out my two spare bedrooms in my home. One of my renters is an 85 year old woman and we've gotten along great for the year she's been renting a room from me. She's been like a mother to me.
Today I walked in the kitchen and she had a potato cooking in the oven and a can of pepper in her hand and she was struggling to get it open. So I walked over and said " here, you want me to help you open it?" and she started going off on me saying " I don't want to listen to you saying anything bad about my pepper! All you do is talk all the time about how bad stuff is and I don't have allergies!"
I have a lot of food intolerances and I am always dieting and she's always wanting to cook for me and I have to follow a strict diet and she doesn't understand.
So when she snapped at me about the pepper, I was very hurt because all I wanted to do was help her open it and I had not said anything negative about her pepper at all. I eat it quite often myself.
So I just looked at her and said " you're very rude!" and walked to my room. A few minutes later I went back in the kitchen and she apologized and tried to grab me and asked for a hug. Now I am NOT a hugger and I am an introvert and I don't like to be around people at all and there are very few people that I allow to touch or hug me. I keep to myself. In all the time she's lived here, we've never hugged.
I told her " no- I don't like to be hugged, I'm sorry " and she said "I don't care- I DO like hugs!" and she kept rushing at me with her arms out and I moved away. I said I had to go to the store and would be back later.
So a few minutes ago I got a text from her saying that she was moving out and to forward the rent money she just paid me a couple of days ago to her daughter.
I went to her room and knocked on the door and said let's talk. She said she can't live with this kind of stress. She said that when I said she was rude, it caused her too much stress and she told her kids about it and they told her to move out..
Keep in mind that in the year that she lived with me, this is the first time we have argued, if you can even call it that.
And all it was about was me trying to help her open a can of pepper and she started going off on me and I said that's rude and walked off .
I think she could have the start of dementia maybe. I apologized to her for saying she was rude for going off on me and she said she was going to talk to her kids about whether she should stay or not.
I'm just in shock about the whole situation. THIS is why I avoid people. THIS is why I am an introvert. THIS is why I keep to myself. I want to avoid situations like this at all costs.
Today I walked in the kitchen and she had a potato cooking in the oven and a can of pepper in her hand and she was struggling to get it open. So I walked over and said " here, you want me to help you open it?" and she started going off on me saying " I don't want to listen to you saying anything bad about my pepper! All you do is talk all the time about how bad stuff is and I don't have allergies!"
I have a lot of food intolerances and I am always dieting and she's always wanting to cook for me and I have to follow a strict diet and she doesn't understand.
So when she snapped at me about the pepper, I was very hurt because all I wanted to do was help her open it and I had not said anything negative about her pepper at all. I eat it quite often myself.
So I just looked at her and said " you're very rude!" and walked to my room. A few minutes later I went back in the kitchen and she apologized and tried to grab me and asked for a hug. Now I am NOT a hugger and I am an introvert and I don't like to be around people at all and there are very few people that I allow to touch or hug me. I keep to myself. In all the time she's lived here, we've never hugged.
I told her " no- I don't like to be hugged, I'm sorry " and she said "I don't care- I DO like hugs!" and she kept rushing at me with her arms out and I moved away. I said I had to go to the store and would be back later.
So a few minutes ago I got a text from her saying that she was moving out and to forward the rent money she just paid me a couple of days ago to her daughter.
I went to her room and knocked on the door and said let's talk. She said she can't live with this kind of stress. She said that when I said she was rude, it caused her too much stress and she told her kids about it and they told her to move out..
Keep in mind that in the year that she lived with me, this is the first time we have argued, if you can even call it that.
And all it was about was me trying to help her open a can of pepper and she started going off on me and I said that's rude and walked off .
I think she could have the start of dementia maybe. I apologized to her for saying she was rude for going off on me and she said she was going to talk to her kids about whether she should stay or not.
I'm just in shock about the whole situation. THIS is why I avoid people. THIS is why I am an introvert. THIS is why I keep to myself. I want to avoid situations like this at all costs.
