How are you at trusting people? Do you still believe there are people out there, even just one, who would care about you for you?

... and not for what they can get from you?
People who won't stab you in the back or take and take from you until you're drained?

I don't trust people. I didn't make the choice in one sitting, no. It's a reaction brought on by how I see them treat people and even myself.

I don't like that people take and take, either ignorant or just ignoring how that one person they spend time with is slowly fading away. I like both parties having a choice and being comfortable to say no. I like respect and mutual trust. I like people sensitive to know when they're sucking the energy out of another.

But most people don't care at all for as long as they get to take what they want. Ego feeding. A listener. Companionship. Comfort. Name it.

But it isn't fair for the other person.

But I still do believe that there are the opposite of energy vampirism, some great ones, true diamonds in the rough still waiting for me to meet them.

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ViciDraco · 36-40, M

I have two very good friends.

One I had met online in a roleplay chatroom, gaming, not sexual. We talked often online and our characters interacted a lot. We became close. She wanted a relationship and though I felt love for this person I refused it. I was 19 and after we were friends found out she was only 16. She respected my choice and we remained friends. By the time she was of age she was in another relationship so we never really revisited that potential. But we are confidantes for each other. We don't speak often these days but we are as close as ever. If one of us ever needs something the other can help with, there is no doubt we'll be there for each other. No scorekeeping, no holding it over the other person.

The other friend is of my same age. There is a similar story but reflected. I have a massive crush on them and always have had it. But when I tried asking them out it was a no. I respected that and we moved on. Close as ever. I was there when they had a bad breakup and needed a place to stay. Much further down the road I was in a real pinch with transportation issues and they were right there as soon as they could be to help out. It's another case where we'd do anything for each other. We often go months without speaking, but we know the other is there if needed. It's already been tested and proven.

I don't know if either of those count as wanting something from the other. But it certainly isn't transactional. I love and trust these two people wholeheartedly. And though i cannot be sure, i do feel they hold me in the same regard.

Casheyane · F

@ViciDraco Yeah, it counts. :)