Being Yourself

I’ve found that when I go on a date, I act uncharacteristically extroverted and outgoing. Which is how I used to behave when I was younger. But since my early 20’s my personality is much more introverted, calm, collected and i’m very much a loner now.

I think I do act differently in a dating setting because people often perceive extroverted people to be more socially confident and attractive. I also think a part of me wants to be how I used to be.

I’m conventionally attractive and have good social skills and I think because of those qualities, people I date often assume that I have all these friends and this great social life. But I don’t. I’m very much a loner.

And I think I play up people’s initial assumptions about me instead of just being myself. I should stop doing that because it’s not authentic to who I am.