I Am Intelligent Yet Still An Idiot
Do you ever have a realization about yourself that helps you to grow as a person but it's difficult to grasp? When your old ways are so much a part of you that it's difficult to see how you've been doing it wrong all along but now you have a sliver of what could be a great eye opener?
I endlessly try to think of ways to communicate with my partner. When it comes to emotionally sensitive topics we fail at getting our message across to one another. I have gone through endless learning on how to effectively communicate and he has not. I've often wondered if that has actually created obstacles. I think it's possible that I've taken it too far and gone too deep. I think I've possibly analyzed out loud conflicts when trying to resolve them when I should have been staying at a much more basic level. I don't need to analyze why either of us do or did something. I don't need to speak on my speculation of why or how things occurred. When I do this I think I touch on areas that are too sensitive and don't really need to be brought up in order for myself to be understood. I'm starting to believe that all I need to do is simply state my problem, how it makes me feel, and what I feel needs to be changed so the issue for me can be resolved. I've always been told this is way to do it but I've been adding so much in between. Is it possible that if I try this different approach I will have a different reaction and more productive results? I'm hopeful I've caught onto something. Sometimes it drives me crazy how I make these big mistakes in life. I'm told I've learned so much from them, I want to know why I have to find nearly every mistake a person can make. Wouldn't I be much happier not making these major mistakes like most of the other people in the world naturally seem to do? I know we all mess up but I seem to do it more often and with more zest than the rest of the general population.
I endlessly try to think of ways to communicate with my partner. When it comes to emotionally sensitive topics we fail at getting our message across to one another. I have gone through endless learning on how to effectively communicate and he has not. I've often wondered if that has actually created obstacles. I think it's possible that I've taken it too far and gone too deep. I think I've possibly analyzed out loud conflicts when trying to resolve them when I should have been staying at a much more basic level. I don't need to analyze why either of us do or did something. I don't need to speak on my speculation of why or how things occurred. When I do this I think I touch on areas that are too sensitive and don't really need to be brought up in order for myself to be understood. I'm starting to believe that all I need to do is simply state my problem, how it makes me feel, and what I feel needs to be changed so the issue for me can be resolved. I've always been told this is way to do it but I've been adding so much in between. Is it possible that if I try this different approach I will have a different reaction and more productive results? I'm hopeful I've caught onto something. Sometimes it drives me crazy how I make these big mistakes in life. I'm told I've learned so much from them, I want to know why I have to find nearly every mistake a person can make. Wouldn't I be much happier not making these major mistakes like most of the other people in the world naturally seem to do? I know we all mess up but I seem to do it more often and with more zest than the rest of the general population.
