I am an idiot
So i am confused to call and text her that i planning to visit her city. Or should I just go there and tell her? Its a big risk since i don't know even if she would respond. 😐
31-35, M
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SW-User
If you're only going there to see her and she doesn't know about your plan or respond somehow then simply don't do it. Most likely, it will come across as creepy/stalkerish behavior — and you will be heartbroken. If she acknowledges you & agrees to meet and/or you have other things to do in that city then fine.
littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M
SW-User
@littlepuppywantanewlife Text and call first by all means. Try to focus your attention and energy on something/someone else too. Maybe like working out or seeing family & friends. I know it's hard, but since you posted this question asking for advice and realizing the risks it means you are still capable of rational thinking. Things might be bad now, but with reckless actions they will be a LOT worse – maybe to the point of no return.
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Carissimi · F
Believe me, if you are broken, miserable, and lonely now, you are not ready for a relationship. See if you can get to a place where you are not feeling miserable and lonely, at least (the broken part may take a lot longer to mend, or may never mend). You need to go in stronger and more confident in yourself (don’t ask me how you do that because I’m not there yet, and it’s been years), but I do know going into a relationship with all that misery on your shoulders is not conducive to a successful relationship, and will make you feel worse than you already do, so work on yourself first ... whatever that means. Good luck! @littlepuppywantanewlife
If you do go, take@SW-User advice.
If you do go, take@SW-User advice.
littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M
@Carissimi thank you. 🙂🤗