Do we need people pleasing abilities? At least a little?

Mmhmm, once you stop catering to others you realize who actually cares for you and who was just using you. When I decided it was time to focus on my own happiness instead of compromising it to feed the happiness of others I lost an embarrassing number of “friends” and family and the degrees of loneliness from that…it tinkered with some pretty heavy demons within. I stuck to my guns though knowing how easily people can take advantage of someone who would rather have “love” over boundaries. Being that person fed those demons even more. But I’ve been able to fall into some genuine healthy relationships with those who don’t require anything damaging to my soul from me and who don’t make me feel like I’m anything less than remarkable when I’m less than perfect. I’ve been able to find a nice mix of wearing a mask here and there when I’m ugh and saying no more, as well as saying yes to myself and letting the true me be seen and loved more without questioning its genuinity because I wasn’t compromising myself for the benefit of other’s approval. Your people…your true people will come. Trust the process.