If you knew you had some serious issues you needed to work through and they were affecting your partner in a detrimental way,

Would you expect your partner to stay with you even though you hurt them?

Or would you tell them that you need to take some time apart to work on yourself because you don't want to hurt them anymore?

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Sutten · 36-40, F

It depends on the relationship, is it new, how long have they been together, are they married, are there kids involved? Many factors to consider before making that type of decision. I would hope if it's a marriage or kids involved that the relationship would be strong enough to work together to overcome the issue before extreme decisions are made.

MarbleMarvel

@Sutten Very true. What about a seasoned relationship with no marriage or kids?

Sutten · 36-40, F

@MarbleMarvel If it's not serious or has no potential of becoming anything, then take the break to focus on yourself. Your mental health is what matters.

being · 36-40, F

If I had the maturity to see this, it wouldn't be necessary for me to go really far. Perhaps maintaining some distance but not too much or too long ?
What do you think ?

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Sutten · 36-40, F

@MarbleMarvel You have a kind heart and someday the right person will see that.

being · 36-40, F

@MarbleMarvel for me I think the greatest challenge in my previous relationships - I restrained myself from getting into any relationship for more than two years now -
..it has been that I wasn't seeing my wounds and responsibilities like I can do now.

I think after you see and realise that, naturally you repel everyone Lol but I also think that, if there's someone nearby who has the maturity to approach the situation with ease and slowly, things can potentially work, and again, slowly, patiently.
Marvel thing is, we'll never stop healing or growing..:)

being · 36-40, F

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@Sutten

Justafantasy · M

I think it depends on the partner, someone you feel you can work with is the only one who should be your partner. Anything less is just someone you know.

SStarfish ·

My husband forced me to stay with him out of spite.. it's a passive aggressive relationship ..

But if you think your issues are negatively effecting your mate's wellbeing you can apologize and explain yourself unless you just want to use your issues to take a break from them because you yourself are dissatisfied with them somehow??

GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M

Id say do whats best for you. If they stay, they stay. If they go, they go.

Pinkstarburst · 51-55, F

I tried to do this very thing and he wouldn’t leave.

bijouxbroussard · F

If I were hurting them (and realized it) I wouldn’t expect them to stay. Obviously I would hope they’d stay, and I’d be doing everything in my power to resolve my problems so I wouldn’t continue hurting them, but I wouldn’t blame them if they found it too difficult. 😞

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