It can happen very early on in a conversation, sweetie....but...and this might just blow your mind....as a T Girl, I will often get messages from women too of a very sexual nature...ie, where to put my 'thing' into them! So, I get it from both males and females.

As with anything, sweetie, it depends on my mood on how I react to it.

Generally though, it's a bit boring!

😘

It happens several times a day, I wouldn't say it's all unwanted but it's often ill timed. Guys and women think very differently, often I just want to chat. I love male company but guys often don't understand that at all so messages are like... Hi.. how are you? Are you rubbing your clit? 😂

I stopped responding to DMs from strangers long long ago. Some of them start out like normal human beings, but I could count on one hand the number who didn’t try to slant sexual at some point; the difference was just how soon. In the beginning when I was hurting and lost and unhappy, I’d fall for it because it was nice to feel wanted and attractive again, and it took a while to realize the only thing they actually found attractive was my gullibility. Looking back at the predatory nature of it all, I imagine a fair bit of their “success” is just lonely, vulnerable women. I mostly just check my sexuality at the door now and find that curbs most advances. I just have to delete a handful of requests here and there if my picture is up and they can see I’m not Bob in his mother’s basement. 🙄😂

I’m old and grouchy. I don’t receive anything.

Don’t know how much, if any success they’re getting but they likely cast a wide net on the off chance of catching someone. And I think it’s reasonable to assume that for some, just the act of spotting the catch and casting the net is enough to fill their spank bank. Which is sadly likely to be an improvement over their real lives.

Men get unwanted sexual advances and creepy things all the time as well as stalkers and people who randomly send them unsolicited photos, both male and female variety. Why would they be so silly as to think they didn't? 🤔

I get it, some guys act like it's always awesome to get sexual advances, but they don't speak for every man and it CAN turn into something bad real quick. Especially the way this world is set up.

I think there's a mainstream view in NA that women are more vulnerable and defenseless ... and if you're of that view, unwanted sexual attention etc is worse for women. It's not my view
Seems patriarchal

I've had unwanted attention - whatever I am

Well I’m new here so I’ll let you know! I do know men and women who have received unwelcome messages.

When I first joined SW, I put a few pictures of myself and my wife, which attracted a lot of these knobjockeys, Since I removed those pictures, they've stopped.

I rarely receive them now. But I'm not as active or always in the spotlight. I stay a bit more under the radar. Plus I'm sure I have a different vibe now than previously. Grumpy old lady. 😄

If I do receive some random message, I know what they want or where it will go after the initial pretense, and I just delete it.

I’m sure they are. I see posts from women with suggestive pics seeking strokes here (because I guess some need that, even from strangers, for self esteem boosts). It’s a human thing.

And I understand my gender well enough to get that the pics are not all initiated by men.