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For the "Ladies" (quotations to make it creepy)

Another user here, and when I say another user I mean, some Karen, implied, again in a very karen way, she insisted that me being a man. I couldn't possibly understand something because I guess I don't have a any way.
So help me understand something .

Again only for the "ladies"

How many times a week do you receive an unwelcome text, picture or insinuation no matter if it's not a full on se*** advance..

And how long into the conversation that happens..

Do you not think that they must be getting some kind of success somewhere no?

Serious question.

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PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F Best Comment

It happens several times a day, I wouldn't say it's all unwanted but it's often ill timed. Guys and women think very differently, often I just want to chat. I love male company but guys often don't understand that at all so messages are like... Hi.. how are you? Are you rubbing your clit? 😂

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CurrentName · 51-55, M

@PatientlyWaiting25

You telling me that someone you just met after a moment of pleasantries , just ups and asks you that!!??

PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F

@CurrentName it's fine when they catch me and I actually am horny but I don't have a magic switch that instantly responds when I'm asked if my pussy is wet. I also have a normal life that involves things that are not in the slightest bit sexy.

CurrentName · 51-55, M

@PatientlyWaiting25
I understand thank you for such a detailed response.. 😊

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CurrentName · 51-55, M

@Mamapolo2016
I feel honored that you have chosen to share that with me.

I particularly liked this one...

I can’t fully understand black oppression, because I’m white. But I can understand enough to know that people who do it think it somehow benefits them.

It's at the same time beautifully written and right on point...

Thank you for writing I loved it all.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@CurrentName Thank you, and you are welcome.

CurrentName · 51-55, M

@Mamapolo2016
I also like your take on someone always gaining something from the position they enjoy.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

I’m old and grouchy. I don’t receive anything.

Don’t know how much, if any success they’re getting but they likely cast a wide net on the off chance of catching someone. And I think it’s reasonable to assume that for some, just the act of spotting the catch and casting the net is enough to fill their spank bank. Which is sadly likely to be an improvement over their real lives.

CurrentName · 51-55, M

@OlderSometimesWiser
I tend to see it that way. I think the whole thing of looking for and selecting them shocking the hell of someone is what gets these people off.
There is no intention of anything else.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@CurrentName I really don’t see it as getting off on the shock as many of their targets lead with their tits hanging out or have been here long enough to know the game. So they would hardly be surprised at hearing from them. I see it mostly as fantasizing about the target and the hunt. Thrill of the chase, it’s as old as time.

constance · 70-79, T

I think there's a mainstream view in NA that women are more vulnerable and defenseless ... and if you're of that view, unwanted sexual attention etc is worse for women. It's not my view
Seems patriarchal

I've had unwanted attention - whatever I am

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CurrentName · 51-55, M

@constance
Because the way I read it tell me if I'm wrong , it seems like by saying it seems patriarchal and you don't agree with the patriarchy, then those other things mentioned before are invalid?
Did I get that wrong?

constance · 70-79, T

@CurrentName It's not a matter of whether I agree or not. It just is.

CurrentName · 51-55, M

@constance
I get you.. thank you for respondimg my friend.

DancingStarGoddess ·

Men get unwanted sexual advances and creepy things all the time as well as stalkers and people who randomly send them unsolicited photos, both male and female variety. Why would they be so silly as to think they didn't? 🤔

I get it, some guys act like it's always awesome to get sexual advances, but they don't speak for every man and it CAN turn into something bad real quick. Especially the way this world is set up.

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DancingStarGoddess ·

@CurrentName shit! 🙈 I can explain! I was really drunk and it was a bad night 😩

CurrentName · 51-55, M

@DancingStarGoddess
Well my friend. I'm glad you don't remember 😉
Thank you for being a sport😊

Gibbon · 70-79, M

@CurrentName Still? I've never spoken to you before this day. Now you sound like you're crying to mommy. Dancing star and I have had many good exchanges and I don't expect that to change.

Bristolcat · 51-55, F

Well I’m new here so I’ll let you know! I do know men and women who have received unwelcome messages.

CurrentName · 51-55, M

@Bristolcat
Oh no you don't have to do all that .
I'm curious about how often your friends get them tho.

Bristolcat · 51-55, F

seems to be occasional… not daily or weekly. I’ve received them on other sites in the past. Like I said..new here. Still figuring out SW. @CurrentName

CurrentName · 51-55, M

@Bristolcat
I understand thank you for responding. It's all very strange to me.

bijouxbroussard · F

I’m sure they are. I see posts from women with suggestive pics seeking strokes here (because I guess some need that, even from strangers, for self esteem boosts). It’s a human thing.

And I understand my gender well enough to get that the pics are not all initiated by men.

CurrentName · 51-55, M

@bijouxbroussard
It baffles me in two ways...
First the guy that does it..
I think they get off on the shock they get . They don't really want to get into anything.
That's some
Then I guess some think that works or whatever

Then from the point of view of me as a woman It would piss me off

CurrentName · 51-55, M

@bijouxbroussard in all the time I've been coming here feels like there's two sW , and there's thing that women deal with here that are not part of my experience.
And everybody treats it like..yeah..that's just how it is....

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